Originally Posted by
squid
I personally don't use Xuen on most fights because a Pet out of my control strikes me badly, like taunting in your case or just having it be in the wrong place at the wrong time, but I am sure thats a personal choice on my part. I use rushing jade wind as a substitute and find it really good for when theres two or more enemies, though it would be useless on a single boss I suppose.
Your gear looks good, and I am not sure if you are looking for play suggestions or not but I will say consider glyphing guard, even if it means the entire absorb wont be used every 30 sec it makes up for it by giving you higher uptime on the +30% self healing. And part of brewmaster tanking is being smart with your movement, make sure you are using those Gift of the Ox procs and every possible way to mitigate damage beyond just gear, as in movement when you can and such.
Honestly though from your post it reads more like the problem isn't you. If you are the experienced tank you say, I would say its more to do with others getting used to playing WITH a brewmaster. The playstyle is different as you know, and seem to love, but mechanics like shuffle instead of block, wearing leather, and some of the other particulars of the spec do make a difference from your healers perspective, and how confident your healer is about what damage you are going to take in the coming seconds, and how to match their cooldowns to yours. Couple that with the relatively new Active Mitigation model all tanks now use, and someone who seems determined not to play nice, and its a recipe for some conflict.
Don't let other people bring you down if this is the spec and class you love, if you are playing optimally, and it seems like you generally are, then its just their problem and should be worked out socially.
EDIT
I also just noticed you are only at 7.5% Expertise, that really should be 15% as brewmaster especially. Remember that Elusive Brew comes from white swing crits, which obviously have to hit in the first place. One of the main keys to Brewmaster is maintaining Shuffle and Elusive Brew as much as you can.