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  1. #61
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    Age is just a number. If you take good care of yourself, you can even feel young at 60.

    I do recognise the feelings you're having though. I've had them myself, and I'm 24. But really, we're both still young. It's waaay too early to worry about this kind of stuff.

    Life is not all about childhood either. They do not have to be the best years.

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    Lol yeah beeing 20 sucks, looking back at it, what a freaking nightmare!

    I'm 32 now, and my life have settled really well, my job is "settled" and I love it, love my gf and kids, the economy is great, heck I can't really put a finger on anything.

    But when I look back at my 20's? geeeesh, it all went up in drugs, several different girlfriends (several of them beeing complete bishes), confused about what kind of proff to choose, a messed up economy, since i basicly spent the majority of money on going out and vacations etc.



    The 20's are hell, really a big unstructured rollercoaster ride, but it did teach me alot of important things in life, and made me who I am, just like it'll do with you, so look forward to 10 years of sheer chaos and crazy ups and downs, this is where the world opens up to you, and you get a shot at real life, embrace it!

    Now the sadness about beeing a kid I do sorta understand, but it's a period of life, remember it with joy, nothing will last forever, and since you're sad about letting it go, it must mean that you had a great childhood, which is definately a positive thing, heck my childhood was hell lol, when I hear the themesongs from some of the tv shows my kids watch, from when I was a child, I get really sad, but it's years ago and not worth thinking about.


    Some day, you might be the one who'll be the Dad, and have to provide a safe, fun and great experience for your own kids, and it beats childhood on all levels, atleast in my case.


    You're 20, still a kid, heck I wouldnt even let you borrow my car if you had a drivers license!

  3. #63
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    Quote Originally Posted by Howlrunner View Post
    http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-...-of-grief.html

    Everyone goes through it when they have a trauma/loss/major negative development in their life.

    Your just ahead of this guy. Sorry things aren't going well for you, but sure as hell doesn't give you the right to judge.
    Why are you sorry for me?
    Im not sorry so why should you be?

    Im not judging, im telling them they are wrong

    ---------- Post added 2012-11-26 at 12:13 PM ----------

    Quote Originally Posted by Nindoriel View Post
    Yeah those people want to feel bad, it's all their fault.
    If you had any idea how many peple that rather stay feeling bad then actauuly take some responsibilty and start feeling better you would be amazed.
    Its so much easier to blame everything and everyone.

  4. #64
    Quote Originally Posted by Lizbeth View Post
    First, hi MMO-Champ! I've lurked here for a while, being a WoW and Diablo player and finally decided to register.

    Anyway, the problem is that I had my 20th birthday in September, as well as a lot of changes in my life and I've been feeling increasingly nostalgic, even depressed after that. I thought it would pass but it's actually getting worse. I don't even know what it is. Maybe it's that I dont want to accept being a grown up now or maybe it's because I took a year off college after the first year because I didn't like my specialty and I'm planning to reapply next year. It could even be because I renovated my room during summer from the money I made working and dug up a lot of old things, photos, mementos, childhood dolls or even because I lost touch with nearly all my high school friends. Oh and I forgot the most important part. My parents were in their late 30s/early 40s when they had me and my dad just had hes 60th birthday and they're starting to look kind of frail.

    This is starting to really bother me as I feel.. old at 20 and I don't know if that's normal. Has anyone gone through something like that?
    Stay in Education for as long as possible, make the most of the summer and winter breaks.

    Try and find something you enjoy for College, and keep doing the work knowing that it is better than going straight into work. Tell yourself you are working now to avoid a mind-numbing job later.

    Spend time with your family.

    Make new friends and stay busy, it helps guard against nostalgia for old friends/old times.

    Set yourself things to look forward to, like trips or something to keep yourself looking forward.

  5. #65
    I'm 34. To be honest the early 20s were weird and angsty. Your last vestiges of idealism are taking a pounding, you're realising that even if the future is full of friends and laughter, it'll still never be as simple as it was at school, and there's a fair bit of identity crisis going on a lot.

    It passes. I think it's just an early twenties thing you have to get through.

  6. #66
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    Life is wonderful, mate. But everything ends eventually. Everything.

  7. #67
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    Quote Originally Posted by Senjinone View Post
    If you had any idea how many peple that rather stay feeling bad then actauuly take some responsibilty and start feeling better you would be amazed.
    Its so much easier to blame everything and everyone.
    You're making it sound as if all a person had to do is sit down and say "I will be better now". Go to a person with a disease like cancer or aids, tell them to stop whining and tell them that they should just stop feeling bad. Go ahead. Do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Iceman2500 View Post
    I'll bet that part of that has to do with the majority of life's milestones occuring early in our lives:

    • When you first become a teenager, you can't wait to hit 16 to get your driver's license and time seems to move slowly.
    • When you hit 16, you can't wait to turn 18 to become a legal adult and time seems to move slowly.
    • When you hit 18, you can't wait to turn 21 so you can legally buy booze and gamble at casinos and time seems to move slowly.


    Once you hit 21, you realize that there's NOTHING to look forward to for another 40+ years, at which point you're eligible for retirement and senior discounts......and time seems to speed up.
    Just imagine how it is at countries where you get all of those at age of 18.
    Only difference being that you can get strong alcohols, easier, when you are 21. I mean who wouldnt get it before that tho..but still. Minor "yay" if you even are intrested in the stuff at all.

  9. #69
    Quote Originally Posted by Senjinone View Post
    There is no such thing as luck.
    Just because you are lucky enough to not have had bad luck, doesn't make it not exist....

  10. #70
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    Quote Originally Posted by Howlrunner View Post
    No, your judging and dictating. You may not think you are, but re-read the posts, and it does come very much across like that.
    How it comes across is not the same has what im doing.
    How it comes across is just a reflection of what happening inside you when you read what i write.
    What i do and mean is something utterly diffrent

  11. #71
    Quote Originally Posted by Lizbeth View Post
    First, hi MMO-Champ! I've lurked here for a while, being a WoW and Diablo player and finally decided to register.

    Anyway, the problem is that I had my 20th birthday in September, as well as a lot of changes in my life and I've been feeling increasingly nostalgic, even depressed after that. I thought it would pass but it's actually getting worse. I don't even know what it is. Maybe it's that I dont want to accept being a grown up now or maybe it's because I took a year off college after the first year because I didn't like my specialty and I'm planning to reapply next year. It could even be because I renovated my room during summer from the money I made working and dug up a lot of old things, photos, mementos, childhood dolls or even because I lost touch with nearly all my high school friends. Oh and I forgot the most important part. My parents were in their late 30s/early 40s when they had me and my dad just had hes 60th birthday and they're starting to look kind of frail.

    This is starting to really bother me as I feel.. old at 20 and I don't know if that's normal. Has anyone gone through something like that?
    Jesus christ, stop whining and listen to yourself ffs "oh woe is me I'm 20", "oh woe is me I took a year off", "oh woe is me my parents are getting old", "oh woe is me I get college paid for", "oh woe is me I don't have to get a real job for at least 4 years", oh woe is me I didn't like my first specialty at college so I'm going ot change"

    god damn it what I want to say would get me banned. That is how much i dislike you, get a real problem.

  12. #72
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nindoriel View Post
    You're making it sound as if all a person had to do is sit down and say "I will be better now". Go to a person with a disease like cancer or aids, tell them to stop whining and tell them that they should just stop feeling bad. Go ahead. Do it.
    Well i have done it allready, and some get angry, some laugh and some actally start feeling better.

    And yea, if people start thinking positive they will feel better.
    Maybe not the same second but eventually they will.

    Do a test:
    Stand up
    Have your feet closer then shoulder widh and toes pointing slightly in towards eachother
    pull your shoulders up towards your ears, hard
    make a sad face as much as you can
    hold your breath
    and think "i hate everything and i hate myself"
    How do you feel?

    Now:
    Stand up
    feet at shoulder widh
    raise your arms up towards the kjy and like your trying to give the heavens a hug
    make the biggest smile you can
    take a death relaxed breath
    and think "i love life"
    How do you feel?

    im 100% sure if you are honest you will feel bad the first way and better the second way.
    Its all in your head.

    s

  13. #73
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    Quote Originally Posted by Senjinone View Post
    Well i have done it allready, and some get angry, some laugh and some actally start feeling better.

    And yea, if people start thinking positive they will feel better.
    Maybe not the same second but eventually they will.

    Do a test:
    Stand up
    Have your feet closer then shoulder widh and toes pointing slightly in towards eachother
    pull your shoulders up towards your ears, hard
    make a sad face as much as you can
    hold your breath
    and think "i hate everything and i hate myself"
    How do you feel?

    Now:
    Stand up
    feet at shoulder widh
    raise your arms up towards the kjy and like your trying to give the heavens a hug
    make the biggest smile you can
    take a death relaxed breath
    and think "i love life"
    How do you feel?

    im 100% sure if you are honest you will feel bad the first way and better the second way.
    Its all in your head.

    s
    You should have your own TV show.

  14. #74
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    Quote Originally Posted by Howlrunner View Post
    What in the name of Holy Fuck are you rambling about?
    What you see as my judging is not me judging.
    Thats how it comes across to you. Thats not a fact, its your interpitation of my words and actions.
    You see me as im judging bnecuse that is what you think im doing.
    Just becuse you think im doing something does not make it true, its just what You Think im doing.

    Like if you come around a corner and see me smash a window of a car.
    You think im breaking into to a car, but in reality its my car and i have locked my only keys to the car inside and cant get in. so i decided to smash the window.
    It comes across to you like im tryin to steal a car, but the fact is im not.

  15. #75
    Quote Originally Posted by Senjinone View Post
    And yea, if people start thinking positive they will feel better.
    Maybe not the same second but eventually they will.
    s
    Feeling positive is how I ended up with clinical depression.... when 100% of your life turns out crap after you spend 40 years thinking positive, you tend to go a bit whacky.

  16. #76
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nindoriel View Post
    You should have your own TV show.
    Yea that would be cool
    Might need to look into that!

    So, how did you feel?
    Honestly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Senjinone View Post
    Yea that would be cool
    Might need to look into that!

    So, how did you feel?
    Honestly.
    Oh I didn't do it. I'm not crazy.
    But you have made me feel better anyway, so thanks, I had a good laugh.

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    You're nearing the end of the system designed to prepare you for your 'adult life'. But it is a system, built by people for the people. You were moved through that system with your similarly aged peers, some of whom you love and love to hate. You are measured and tested and poked and prodded and compared ad nauseum to one another and some find success from this system and others don't.

    I opted to move out young and get a trades job which I went to school for, completed, worked in the industry for 10 years and realized it wasn't my bag. And I started again but this time with a new focus in mind and always with the knowledge that 10 years from now I may move on from that too.

    Be proud of who you are and how you got there. Many people honour their past in different ways. I see very few of my old friends any more and that's okay. In the end the nights always fall back on old conversation and "remember the time that Jimmy..."

    Find out what you're passionate about and you'll follow through on instinct; you'll wake up every day excited about what's on the table... well you'll wake up excited most days There will always be days where you'd rather stay in bed and hell, stay in bed, but you'll find more fulfilment out in the wild.

    Your parents are getting older. You can't fight time, so don't bother. Acknowledge and concede victory and make it your friend. Do not live for the future. You never get there. Live for this very fucking day. If you die tomorrow would you be happy with how you lived your day? Not days. Just day. My recommendation is to start enjoying the little things. A good hearty full gut laugh. There are very few things that can make one feel so good. If my last day was spent laughing, I'd say it was a pretty good day.

    It is what it is what it is. Have fun with it cause this is it.

  19. #79
    Quote Originally Posted by Lizbeth View Post
    First, hi MMO-Champ! I've lurked here for a while, being a WoW and Diablo player and finally decided to register.

    Anyway, the problem is that I had my 20th birthday in September, as well as a lot of changes in my life and I've been feeling increasingly nostalgic, even depressed after that. I thought it would pass but it's actually getting worse. I don't even know what it is. Maybe it's that I dont want to accept being a grown up now or maybe it's because I took a year off college after the first year because I didn't like my specialty and I'm planning to reapply next year. It could even be because I renovated my room during summer from the money I made working and dug up a lot of old things, photos, mementos, childhood dolls or even because I lost touch with nearly all my high school friends. Oh and I forgot the most important part. My parents were in their late 30s/early 40s when they had me and my dad just had hes 60th birthday and they're starting to look kind of frail.

    This is starting to really bother me as I feel.. old at 20 and I don't know if that's normal. Has anyone gone through something like that?
    Probably half the male population has worried, wait untill youre 25, 30 and so on.
    Just enjoy life as it comes with it s ups and downs, we ll all die eventualy.

  20. #80
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nindoriel View Post
    Oh I didn't do it. I'm not crazy.
    But you have made me feel better anyway, so thanks, I had a good laugh.
    As i said, its easier to not take responsibilty and not do things to feel better.
    If you had tried you would have know i was right and then you wold have to chnage how you see things.
    Instead you decided to not do it so you can hold on to your world view, to bad you might had learned something.

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