Hello mmo-c!
I have a dilemma with a friend that i wish to get advice about but first i will give you some backstory.
we've known eachother for basically our entire lives (17years), are in the same class and our families has a strong connection.(we always celebrate newyear at their house for example)
His family is contact, no divorce, no hard feelings whatsoever on eachother.
My family on the other hand is split up(we're patching it though) with divorce, relatives not welcome everywhere, brother has a bad past with drinking and encountering fights.
Because of my family he somehow sees me with his ''virgin-eyes'' as violent and doesn't understand that i have problems and i'm trying my best to not be like the rest (i've almost avoided drinking entierly, no smokes, no snus, nada).
Recently i broke my hand.
Now to the story.
I went with this friend and another to see ''hobbit'' today, it all went well, we met an old teacher and made some chit-chat. On the way home i said that i was thinking of joining the airforce because it would be fun to fly a jet and it would be a healthy thing to do since i would get trained and disciplined a lot. My friend told me that i had to have good focus and be smart. (i've driven gokarts at competition level, formula renault, i have perfect eyesight and i'm studying robotics) and proceeded with ''you'll just probably fly a jet and fire a missile at a building in stockholm since you're violent'' (I mean WHAT THE FUCK?!. We then stumbled upon the subject that the other friend's dad had had an accident earlier that year and had to get one of those steel-sticks or whatever in his leg by surgery and that it was misplaced and he needed another appointment to fix it. I then said ''yeah, that's not good. I did almost need surgery with my hand, lucky that i didn't have to''. This friend then said ''yeah, but we're talking about the leg here'' as if my hand wasn't important at all, who cares if i get crippled in my hand at age 17?! Who gives a fuck, right_?!?!
I would've overlooked this if similar events hadn't occurred before, but it has happened many times before but i've overlooked it because i didn't think he meant any harm. It is as if i don't matter at all. Who cares if i get hurt?
So, should i break our connection?
Sorry about any mess in the text but i'm still mad about this and tired.