Damn yeah you got me beat i at least had a male friend when i was 18...So like 4-5 years of not even beig around women(family aside) and maybe 1-2 times with a friend IF THAT.
So yeah maybe try finding someplace you feel safe/comfortable and go from there. If not that then internet. Use it to try and make more female acquaintances/friends. From there it SHOULD get easier.
Though i still need the more comfortable place to really be social.
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Doesn't help everyone.
I looking back had a woman flirting with me in class once(i always held the door open so i;m guessing that's why) now i was so unpracticed at talking to women that you may have guessed it "foot in mouth disease" i wound up talking like she was a guy and freaked her out...never spoke to me again LOL.
It really may be more a baby steps thing in his case. Extreme cases like his and what i had may be rare but they DO exist and it can take some time.
Stand on your desk and yell 'COME AT ME LADIES'
...I don't know being a girl myself I tend to just use the 'hey, I have ovaries, you have ovaries, we can totally talk about that, let us begin'.
Observe some girls and see if any of them are doing anything you think you might have a wealth of knowledge stashed away to talk about, and... go for it.
Worst case scenario is: She 'mm hmms' and doesn't focus on you speaking. Sucks but... either try again later or try another. I tend to play a few games on my laptop around, that leaves an easy opening for the type of guy I'd like to talk about stuff with. But most girls will be more subtle about their interests. Just try. That's all you can do.
I have eaten all the popcorn, I left none for anyone else.
Practice talking to girls online, or get a hobby that brings you around girls and start of with talking to them as much as you feel you can.
If that doesn't work take acting lessons then create a character named Rock Kickass and act as him while you go talk to chicks.(pick real name if your serious about this tho)
Where are you going to school?
Nowhere to go? What? Join a coed dorm sport activity, go study at the library, ask if you can sit with someone random and strike up a conversation when you eat, go to sporting events, ask to tag along if your dorm-mates are going to a party, etc etc etc.
r.i.p. alleria. 1997-2017. blizzard ruined alleria forever. blizz assassinated alleria's character and appearance.
i will never forgive you for this blizzard.
Interestingly enough I have a room-mate. The only time we talk is if we need to turn the lights on or off. It always pretty awkward in here. As for going places well I tried at the beginning of the year.I went to few activities even went to the school anime club. I always sat alone and no body talked to me so I stop. Also I have no problem talking. So no I don't have an anxiety disorder.
I forgot, girls like it when you fart during conversations.
The key is to eliminate anxiety. Practice by try to make a good impression with people who you don't give a damn if they have a good impression of you.
This is probably some of the better advice here.
---------- Post added 2013-02-12 at 06:12 PM ----------
And yep try and find some with similar interests as well. Internet also helps.
---------- Post added 2013-02-12 at 06:13 PM ----------
Not everyone enjoys partying. Some find them honestly more annoying then almost anything.
Maybe 1 out of 20 people give decent advice here, OP has no use for "act like you always would"...
I'd do what some random guy here mentioned...practice with guy friends.
Yeah my local anime club wasn't that good either.
Geekier folks like us honestly have a harder time cause we don;t have a place of our own to go to meet people. So we get the same old "go to the bar, ask about parties, just go do it" and all of that stuff. Doesn;t help when pretty much all of those have their reasons for not working.
Heh i REALLY should just try and start that local business i came up with the idea for.
---------- Post added 2013-02-12 at 06:17 PM ----------
That can definitely help to start but not as much with women as you might think if the OP is even slightly like me(which it sounds like he is) then that WILL help but not as much with women.