Yeah, sorry, I think I was unclear. I meant, for instance, a hetero with a bi, who's with a homo, who's with a pan, who's with an a, who's with an a-curious, who's with a... etc. Like links on a chain, all of different colors as long as the links tied together match or are relateable. There are more sexual preferences in humanity than there are colors in the rainbow.
Ever seen Startrek Enterprise? Like with Dr. Flock's species, can't remember the name?
Because of family. No one likes people of either gender who just sleep around. They arent dependable and arent mother/father material. There are other reasons for it too. No one really likes to share their partners. Or if they dont mind, the relationship isnt that serious or is one sided. Most men who are ok with polygamy if they can have multiple wives suddenly have a problem if their wives also have multiple husbands.
And if this really was a thing ad could work, how would you imagine a family them? A whole country? Your 5 wives have 5 husbands each who also have 5 wives each and so on.. each of them with at least 1-2 children..
Three things, Polyamoury is not "sleeping around", not everyone wants children, and your example presents no real problem, maybe it would confuse you, but that is your issue. You're also using one hell of a slippery slope fallacy.
Polyamoury just means more than ONE relationship, not 5. Even so, if I did have 5, why do you care?
Don't insult my chicken sandwich, simply because you like BLTs.
Most people who are polyamorous aren't open and honest about it. My guess is because they feel the women they are with won't be with them if they admit it, so they hide it. There's nothing wrong with being polyamorous. It's when you lie about it that it becomes a problem.
2014 Gamergate: "If you want games without hyper sexualized female characters and representation, then learn to code!"
2023: "What's with all these massively successful games with ugly (realistic) women? How could this have happened?!"
sharing my partner with someone like that destroys the value of the relationship. how can there be anything special between you an the other person, if there's also something special between them and another? i could never love someone while we both love someone else as well.
So you killed their parents, then?
All their friends, pets.
After all, how can they have a meaningful relationship with you if they have anyone else in their life?
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I'm not asking people to convert to polyamoury, just that people understand how it really works.
See, you're a very possessive person, nothing wrong with it, but that is your thing, and your partner's, nobody else's.
If a partner of mine came to me and told me that they have another person they want to be with, alongside me, I would feel quite the opposite of you.
I consider it quite destructive to keep a person away from people they love, to the point where I'd consider it abuse, imprisonment even.
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Just exaggerating the point made, being possessive isnt harmful in and of itself, but leads to mistrust and paranoia if left unchecked.
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Next thing you know, you're searching through their contacts list, asking who people are...
I don't care who you bang, but poly isn't a sexual orientation, and marriage is a 1:1 institution for logistical reasons. This restriction doesn't infringe on any sexual orientation.