You realized they were the sexy sex to you, yes. Then you started hearing about how this was a bad thing that happens much more to women than to men and that men should feel bad about it because it harms the people it happens to. This is the "feminist theory"; that's what those claims are based on.
Indeed, you don't see objectification as something wrong/bad, you just thinks it has harmful side effects... which is the same thing. And also it's disrespectful. And it disregards them as a person... and you think people who objectify women dehumanize them to the point where they just see them as "walking sex toys"... and also men need to be conditioned out of it if they think this way... but you totally don't think it's something "wrong/bad". Somehow I don't believe you.
You also say more things that lead me to believe that your claims about not being influenced by feminist ideology are less than honest. Like how you're left at "unease" by talk about sex; upset about being sexually objectified; think that a woman is "out of her mind" if she brags about her boyfriend's dicks; porn leaves a sour taste in your mouth... these, and the above, are all signs of someone who has deeply taken to heart a perverse, sex-negative feminist views about the world.
But if it's any comfort, you're not the only person who feels this way, for sure. There are tons of sex-negative feminists out there who all agree with you! Apparently, you've gone through your whole life absorbing their ideology without even realizing it. My advice is to seek out a community of them. Enjoy the presence of those similar to you.
Right... just like all that social conditioning turned everyone in the medieval world straight as a die... or are you saying that it actually pretty alright to be gay back in those days? Castration wasn't that bad? Getting burned alive for it was kind of a bummer but not that much of a deterrent? Geeze, I wonder what prescriptions you'd support if you didn't think that was enough to socially condition people out of their obsolete primal instincts even after being applied for hundreds of years...