Married, successful. Why do some men risk it all?

[enragedgorilla]

1. It is a 2 way street... but you know that so.

2. You have it all...you want more, be it entitlement,boredom,ego ....whatever.

3. See #1 again.

[Malkiah]

That's not how it works....

it totally kind of is though, as long as the person who did the cheating isn't a fecking idiot about the whole thing and does something retarded like tell their partner about it.

[Mellomania]

it totally kind of is though, as long as the person who did the cheating isn't a fecking idiot about the whole thing and does something retarded like tell their partner about it.

Just because they don't know about it, don't mean that they didn't get cheated on.

[Tennis]

I'd tell them flat out, do not mess around with married men. They will not choose you.

What about avoiding men who will cheat on them?

[Deleted]

It's not cheating until you're caught

Even though I doubt that you are serious: Yes, it is.

That said: Cheating is just incredibly bad. If you are not happy in your relationship, at least have the basic decency to end it.

[Medusa Cascade]

What about avoiding men who will cheat on them?

Rather sexist

[Malkiah]

Just because they don't know about it, don't mean that they didn't get cheated on.

but whether or not they got cheated on doesn't matter and isn't any of their business as long as the cheater hasn't changed their feelings or commitment to their partner.

now obviously if say for example a guy who is with a woman and for whatever reason they're dissatisfied with things and goes to get some strange, if that leads to him changing his behavior or feelings towards his partner, that's a problem because the relationship is impacted.
but if one person is otherwise committed and invested in the relationship but needs to get their rocks off somewhere else, the only issue with that is that humans are generally people fucktarded about sex and won't accept this situation.
(which is the vast majority of cases of cheating that i have witnessed in my life)

[Tradewind]

Tennisface's war on men continues!

[Mistame]

"El queso está viejo y pútrido."

Also, "If the well runs dry, drill a better hole."

"An emotional affair is also an affair by definition. A sexual affair is an easy next step."

Say what? Who's writing these things? Twilight fans?

Yes it is and my 5 girlfriends agree

+5 Life skills.

[Tennis]

Avoid men that will cheat on you.

I agree. How do you spot them though?

[Deleted]

but whether or not they got cheated on doesn't matter and isn't any of their business as long as the cheater hasn't changed their feelings or commitment to their partner.

Eh, yes it is. Like it or not, most people do not want their partners to cheat.
Like I said, if you are not happy, don't be a coward and talk about the problems or end the relationship - instead of just lowering yourself to the level of cheating.

[Underverse]

People are not monogamous by nature. If you're married and successful and still have the urge to sleep with others, your life is only perfect through the lens of our culturally promoted values.

[Mellomania]

but whether or not they got cheated on doesn't matter and isn't any of their business as long as the cheater hasn't changed their feelings or commitment to their partner.

now obviously if say for example a guy who is with a woman and for whatever reason they're dissatisfied with things and goes to get some strange, if that leads to him changing his behavior or feelings towards his partner, that's a problem because the relationship is impacted.
but if one person is otherwise committed and invested in the relationship but needs to get their rocks off somewhere else, the only issue with that is that humans are generally people fucktarded about sex and won't accept this situation.

Ye no. It definitely matters. If it's not an open relationship and one person cheats, they broke the other ones trust. Them knowing about it or not doesn't change that.

[Theodarzna]

Give really good head sweetie, and no man will ever leave you? XD

[Fugus]

Avoid men that will cheat on you.

As sad as it sounds, I have noticed a pattern with most women in that regard.

Many women seem only to be attracted to men who have been known to cheat or act like they will. Just like many women seem to have a thing for guys who beat them and will go to those same types of guys over and over and over again and wonder why all the guys do it but then refuse to mess with any other guy who doesn't have those traits.

Gets annoying watching them complain about that knowing full well that if you point it out to them, they will ignore you and make up an excuse of why you are wrong and be pissed off at you for pointing it out.

[Medusa Cascade]

Give really good head sweetie, and no man will ever leave you? XD

Words to live by

[JohnBrown1917]

Tennis, make your threads less obvious. I'll get alcohol poisoning at this rate.

[Daws]

Sure relationships don't work out but it's only the real despicable people who cheat.

Hypothetical situation. Married person (gender irrelevant), stuck in a marriage where there spouse is violent and they are to afraid to leave. Gets involved with someone else that still classed as despicable?

Point being it's very narrow minded to say all cheaters are scum there are circumstances where is justified (there rare but it happens).

[Malkiah]

Eh, yes it is. Like it or not, most people do not want their partners to cheat.

oh absolutely - but the reasons why they don't want their partner to cheat are almost universally selfish, hypocritical, and indefensibly irrational in the face of biological reality.

Like I said, if you are not happy, don't be a coward and talk about the problems or end the relationship - instead of just lowering yourself to the level of cheating.

there are many problems that simply cannot be fixed by talking about it, and many situations people find themselves in where separating is not a viable option.
in these circumstances i'm not saying that cheating is morally right, but i think it's natural and could be acceptable if people would just stop being so god damn stupid about the whole thing.

short of any sort of quantifiable detrimental impact such as an (STD or a change in the dynamics of the primary relationship) the ONLY harm caused by cheating is a purely delusional fantasy arbitrarily manufactured in the minds of people.

[Tennis]

Hypothetical situation. Married person (gender irrelevant), stuck in a marriage where there spouse is violent and there to afraid to leave. Gets involved with someone else that still classed as despicable?

Point being it's very narrow minded to say all cheaters are scum there are circumstances where is justified (there rare but it happens).

Should leave their marriage. End it and move on. Cheating is despicable.