"The Lost Boys" – young men opt for virtual life of pornography and gaming

[Azadina]

are you a female?

Yes? What does that have to do with anything?

[Independent voter]

What. Is. That.

I thought the whole point is meeting a person, your second half, who shares your opinions, likes and dislikes, of things in a world, and you have fun doing those things together... not some prison guard who forbids you play videogames. What if you still play games, will she spank you, or lock you in a room, won't give you dinner, or maybe forbid you meeting your friends after work? Jesus Christ, if that is how normal relationships look like in a modern world, no wonders more and more people want to avoid that.

What happens is you wind up compromising and negotiating. Maybe you and your girl will work out that 2 hours of video games a night are okay or maybe you agree to clean the bathroom in exchange. Everything is a negotiation.

Or maybe you'll get lucky and find a gamer girl. From my limited experience lot of women aren't gamer girls.

[Deleted]

The thing is - if they are happy living like this - why care? They are happy, most of them wont ever hurt anyone. So let them be what they want to be.

I personally like to have some interaction in real life as well. Going to the pub with a friend/friends or hanging out. But my experience and preference is a different one to some of those people. And again - as long as they don't hurt anybody - why care? Hell, we couldnt force them to have fun interacting with people in the first place. You cannot force people to enjoy themselves.

The rejection thing I kinda get. Women have become more self assured over the last decades (which is a good thing). But this also means that lesser attractive/confident men are even less likely to "hook up" with someone. So they take the easier route. It is easier to just google big breasts than to actually land in bed with a woman. Shocking, I know! :P

[Bumkin]

"Video games offer a degree of instant gratification, but also offer structured goals and feedback on performance, which is currently lacking in most real-world spheres for men."

sheeit hes spot on with this

[ls-]

So, do you send when asked?

Nah T_T I can't be bothered to take one. I dun find dicks attractive, even my own My ex from Spain was always nagging me to send her some, never happened though

[Deleted]

Yes? What does that have to do with anything?

http://cdn.themetapicture.com/media/...uston-Nasa.jpg

Somehing like this.

[I Push Buttons]

What happens is you wind up compromising and negotiating. Maybe you and your girl will work out that 2 hours of video games a night are okay or maybe you agree to clean the bathroom in exchange. Everything is a negotiation.

Or maybe you'll get lucky and find a gamer girl. From my limited experience lot of women aren't gamer girls.

What is she sacrificing to be in a relationship with you?

[Deleted]

Nah T_T I can't be bothered to take one. I dun find dicks attractive, even my own My ex from Spain was always nagging me to send her some, never happened though

Could have put a bow tie on it or something, to make it look better and then taken a pic.

[ls-]

Could have put a bow tie on it or something, to make it look better and then taken a pic.

Dicks can't look better, all dicks are fugly T_T Nothing can help, ever.

[Dragon Claws]

The thing is - if they are happy living like this - why care? They are happy, most of them wont ever hurt anyone. So let them be what they want to be.

Most of us are in this position because the alternatives aren't much better, require something we don't have, or something similar. Women are scary, have too high a standard, and rampant feminism is giving pause to most of us.

At least being holed up in our room with porn, videogames, and our thoughts we're pretty safe from a lumpsum of issues in the world.

[Deleted]

Dicks can't look better, all dicks are fugly T_T Nothing can help, ever.

Uncut ones are better looking than cut ones though. But yeah, genitals be ugly, regardless of gender. <.<

[tankbug]

Not surprising at all.

Modern feminists openly demonize masculinity as "toxic", so it's no wonder some men are choosing to opt out.

Have fun collecting cats.

The teenage boys aren't concerned with this. The only guys concerned with feminists are older, rejected, bitter guys, that loathe the fact that girls can do fine alone, instead of having to surrender to some loser in order to survive.

[Azadina]

http://cdn.themetapicture.com/media/...uston-Nasa.jpg

Somehing like this.

Not really getting it. A single white pixel?

[Deleted]

The thing is - if they are happy living like this - why care? They are happy, most of them wont ever hurt anyone. So let them be what they want to be.

It's not about beeing happy, it's about surviving.

Do yu know the needs pyramide?
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikiped..._Needs.svg.png
We are at the second stage, safety. Sometimes, otherwise it's stage 1.

[zebreck]

What is she sacrificing to be in a relationship with you?

In my case specifically we set aside time when we both do things the other doesn't want to do. I play video games, she watches TV I can't stand. Then when that time's over, we do things together. Nobody really has to give anything up, we just adjust our schedules. Besides if you think relationship success is always taking more from someone than you've given you're angling to be single. Nobody sane puts up with that.

[May90]

As I said, normal looking girl who seems friendly. I think you are mixing up hooking up for coffee/date and relationships. You don't have a slightest clue about how well a match you are unless you actually sit down and talk to someone.
As far as looks go, as far as men I know go...average is ok, anything better is an awesome bonus. Being attracted to someone is not "standards".

Why are people so scared to take a chance and just meet up for coffee alone...people make it so much more difficult by going all serious from the get go..

Well, I'll admit, if someone seems friendly and decent and invites me to meet and talk, I would probably accept, unless there was something repulsive about them. Indeed, just one meeting hardly will do any harm, while can have long positive consequences.

I don't know, people nowadays are pretty defensive. Even in a grocery store, when I buy food and tell someone random, "Hey! Nice weather today, isn't it?", sometimes I get weird looks or forced tense responses. If people were simpler and a bit more trusting, life would be much better for everyone.

Oh, man, dickpics are a fucking cancer, but I've seen girls, who ASK for them

THAT would be a huge red flag for me.

[Deleted]

Not really getting it. A single white pixel?

It was supposed to be this, hope it works this time.
http://www.pleated-jeans.com/wp-cont...ton-Nasa-1.jpg

I don't know, people nowadays are pretty defensive. Even in a grocery store, when I buy food and tell someone random, "Hey! Nice weather today, isn't it?", sometimes I get weird looks or forced tense responses. If people were simpler and a bit more trusting, life would be much better for everyone.

Just smile at strangers, it really confuses people since they don't get that very often or at all.
Alternatively they isntantly thing you wat to have sex with them and are either offended or try to hit on you very crudely.

[kyoloco]

It was supposed to be this, hope it works this time.
http://www.pleated-jeans.com/wp-cont...ton-Nasa-1.jpg

i like you

[AeneasBK]

And nothing of value was lost...

[Azadina]

It was supposed to be this, hope it works this time.
http://www.pleated-jeans.com/wp-cont...ton-Nasa-1.jpg

Doesn't apply when I'm writing text, as clever as that was