"The Lost Boys" – young men opt for virtual life of pornography and gaming

[Ahovv]

A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they're not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.

Only context I ever saw it used was in trapping a cheat

You should watch the show "Catfish."

One of my friends got catfished by some chick who wouldn't even show her face. Supposedly lived 20 minutes away from him, but refused to meet up. Said she was "afraid" from past abusive relationships. Lots of red flags, things which didn't add up. Warned the guy, but he still fell for her. Eventually he realized he was being played and called the thing off.

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And? Rule 1 of online dating, majority are time wasters. You just carry on, weed them out, etc. For every successful conversation I had 50 wasted, you just learn how to spot em faster

I find it absolutely fascinating that you didn't even know what a catfish was, and yet you're offering advice on online dating. Please try to learn some self awareness.

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+1 based on your replies with me so far.

Well you're throwing the 'woe is me' attitude pretty hard and creating a victim persona because of your own choices.

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Most of us are in this position because the alternatives aren't much better, require something we don't have, or something similar. Women are scary, have too high a standard, and rampant feminism is giving pause to most of us.

At least being holed up in our room with porn, videogames, and our thoughts we're pretty safe from a lumpsum of issues in the world.

I felt like this 2 years ago, I literally just stopped feeling sorry for myself out of the blue.

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You should watch the show "Catfish."

One of my friends got catfished by some chick who wouldn't even show her face. Supposedly lived 20 minutes away from him, but refused to meet up. Said she was "afraid" from past abusive relationships. Lots of red flags, things which didn't add up. Warned the guy, but he still fell for her. Eventually he realized he was being played and called the thing off.

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I find it absolutely fascinating that you didn't even know what a catfish was, and yet you're offering advice on online dating. Please try to learn some self awareness.

I already said catfish isn't a term used on gay sites, they're just called fake. That's been the way for 15 years. Also I don't even think said show even airs here

[Dragon Claws]

Well you're throwing the 'woe is me' attitude pretty hard and creating a victim persona because of your own choices.

I wouldn't call being catfished as a choice, nor wouldn't call being bullied throughout my school life a choice.

[Fojos]

Considering how extremely spoiled women in this country tend to be it's not that weird. Just today one was trying to take coffee from a machine, her favorite was out so she just stood there and started yelling, blocking everyone else until she got what she wanted. This is almost a daily occurence now, with similar events. For guys I see this once per 5 years.

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I wouldn't call being catfished as a choice, nor wouldn't call being bullied throughout my school life a choice.

Doesn't change what he said. It's not about the past it's about how you act now in present.

[THE Bigzoman]

Haven't heard of medications for that... As for disciplinary measures - again, hasn't this been in use since, well, at least the times of Ancient Greece?


Weird. Granted, I do not know that much about the US schools. This sounds like a Draconian measure.

Vivanz..


Adderral: What I got.

Your ADD is gone while your heart beats faster and you feel godlike Just be sure to take it with food. Because once you take 30 MGs you won't want to eat shit the whole day.

[ls-]

I wouldn't call being catfished as a choice, nor wouldn't call being bullied throughout my school life a choice.

You can't compare these two, and being bullied is sorta a choice, you either stand up to it or bend over.

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I wouldn't call being catfished as a choice, nor wouldn't call being bullied throughout my school life a choice.

Everybody was bullied at some point. Everybody was timewasted. That's called life. The choice is you decided to let these common issues affect your daily life. You even admitted you cba addressing it

[Fojos]

You can't compare these two, and being bullied is sorta a choice, you either stand up to it or bend over.

It's not a choice. The only choice is how you react to and deal with it, but it's still going to happen.

Everybody was bullied at some point. Everybody was timewasted. That's called life. The choice is you decided to let these common issues affect your daily life. You even admitted you cba addressing it

No, not everyone was bullied. Someone being mean to you doesn't mean you were bullied. Bullying is when someone repeatedly picks you as a target and doesn't stop.

[ls-]

It's not a choice. The only choice is how you react to and deal with it, but it's still going to happen.

That's why I said "sort of".

[Ahovv]

Everybody was bullied at some point. Everybody was timewasted. That's called life. The choice is you decided to let these common issues affect your daily life. You even admitted you cba addressing it

"Every black person was a minority at some point. That's called life! The choice is you decide to let these common issues affect your daily life."

Sorry, but your argument is garbage and doesn't hold up in other scenarios. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

[Adamas102]

Self Destructive is relative. I would say this article describes me but I hold a fairly decent job in IT.

Women just suck.

You do realize that the more logical explanation is actually that YOU suck, right?

[Mehrunes]

After you've rejected, say, 100 similar messages, you are bound to become quite discouraged even reading other messages, don't you think? Like, imagine trying a new game and losing 100 games in a row, terribly so. Don't know about you, but I would probably ragequit in frustration.

On the other hand, not getting any messages or even responses is pretty frustrating too. You compose a nice thought out message, and they don't even care responding. Could at least say, "Sorry, not interested". So, this is really a frustrating experience for both sides, just in different ways.

Continuing the game comparison, making 100 messages, similar or otherwise, and not having anything to show for it would be akin to the game crashing to desktop when you try to launch it. You can always win the 101st game but after 100 crashes you may start to think there's some drivers incompatibility or whatever. While receiving too much attention can be annoying and in general the difference between the two is subjective, it's not hard to see why men would view female complaints about the problems of their side of the equation as a bit overblown in comparison.

[Dragon Claws]

You can't compare these two, and being bullied is sorta a choice, you either stand up to it or bend over.

Doesn't change what he said. It's not about the past it's about how you act now in present.

I'm very quiet about a lot of the issues that affected me while growing up. All those little things that added up over time just kinda molded me into this quiet person that wants nothing to do with anyone because of trust issues and (valid) paranoia over STDs and pregnancy.

On the front of bullying, it's because I'm a pacifist and don't see myself throwing a punch. The one time, the ONE time, I defended myself, I got in trouble for it. My Father raised hell about it and almost threatened to pull me out of school. I stuck with it and graduated, if you call lowballing it through school in general as "graduating."

I'm not very bright or smart when it comes to talking about issues. I just tell it like it is and admittedly it's easier to blame someone else, than it is to take responsibility for ones own life, but that's just how it has been for me. Outside influence has really just messed me up to the point where I want really nothing to do with anyone else because it's all I know and my attempts to move out of it have promptly met with me going further into hiding.

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It's not a choice. The only choice is how you react to and deal with it, but it's still going to happen.



No, not everyone was bullied. Someone being mean to you doesn't mean you were bullied. Bullying is when someone repeatedly picks you as a target and doesn't stop.

Statistically a high % admit to getting bullied at some time

[anon5123]

makes them forget their responsibilities or lose interest in daily real life.

If these people are "forgetting their responsibilities", then their problems are probably not caused by porn or videogames.

And what is "daily real life" ? Since this is from the early 90s, I'm going to guess that this is another "they're inside playing videogames, so they have no life!" type of person.

The Man, Interrupted authors believe that if these trends continue, a group of men will opt out of society, others will increasingly turn to crime, and there will be a decline in marriage and family formation.

Ahh, yep. Because the logical conclusion of masturbation is a life of crime. Mmhm, that totally makes sense.

And so what if I don't want to get married? That's my choice. Kindly fuck off.

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"Every black person was a minority at some point. That's called life! The choice is you decide to let these common issues affect your daily life."

Sorry, but your argument is garbage and doesn't hold up in other scenarios. Please stop embarrassing yourself.

Every black person doesn't hide away because some white guys are racist

[Jämeson]

I think that it is like anything else...its fine in moderation. But it wouldn't kill a lot of these guys that spend a lot of time feeling sorry for themselves to hit the gym a bit and get some sunshine. Speaking from experiences with some of my friends, not everyone on the whole. If that is what they are happy doing then who cares? If they are constantly complaining about it well...go do something about it.