Originally Posted by
May90
I understand the reasoning, but the system is crazy. Imagine this: I love my kid, but I split with my wife. The system gives the kid to her, which kills me: the most precious person in my life has been taken away. This is horrible... And now - another kick: "Half your income will go to the child support". I say, "Give me the kid, I won't need any child support, I will raise the kid myself", and they say, "Nooo, the kid belongs to the mother". You can see how unfair the system can be. Granted, same way, if I get the kid, then my former spouse will be devastated. Either way, someone's life is broken. And all because we wanted the best for both of us: we realized we can't live together any more, and staying together will only deteriorate the situation further...
I don't think someone who walks around, impregnating women and then bailing out, should not face any consequences. But I also don't think that a good, faithful father or mother should have their financial life ruined because they had to go for divorce and they didn't part on good terms. I think these questions should be determined by the context. If it turns out that both the father and the mother did everything right, but went for divorce for reasons of incompatibility - then no one should be penalized, and the child should be supported by the government.