STRESS
The confusion caused when one's mind
overrides the body's basic
desire to choke the living shit out of
some jerk who desperately needs it
Being a parent is a learning experience, you're going to fuck up. Every child is unique and there is no right way to raise one, you have to find what works. I've only once or twice spanked my child on emotion when she was pushing her boundaries to far.
I've only spanked my child with open palm and shes never had a bare bottom spanking from me. Her mother is a different story and how shes administers punishment has been a point of contention. I know shes and her now husband used a belt on my daughter at the least and it isn't something I agree with.
So I do believe spanking can go to far and crosses into the realm of abuse.
I got as far as Buckiepoo saying parents should be seen as a threat and I pretty much had to back off from this thread.
El oh fucking El.
But what does it mean "wired wrong"? Are you implying that some children are simply unable to see the reason and have to be spanked for that? That seems like a very bad premise for me: not only it serves to justify the unnecessary violence, but it also implies that some kids are just "bad" and don't deserve a decent treatment. Even if that was true, I don't think it justifies spanking.
Well, maybe you can avoid making the most obvious mistakes, for starters, such as using brute force? No need to have 10 years of experience for that, I think.
Last edited by May90; 2016-04-28 at 05:22 PM.
Oops, I meant "brute force". Correcting it now.
I mean, I understand that sometimes it can be hard to deal with a child, and emotional irrational decisions are not something to be unexpected. I just don't see why one would want to rationalize this behavior. A mistake is a mistake, we all make mistakes. No need to try to make it look like our mistake is somehow not one.
Last edited by May90; 2016-04-28 at 05:24 PM.
I'd say not ignorance, but stupidity. Can't imagine what goes in the head of a person who consciously thinks, "Hmm, I think it is a good idea to spank my child now". I can somewhat understand it being done out of frustration, even though expressing frustration in such a way seems insane to me - but thinking this is the right thing to do... *shrugs* Some things in our society, I guess, I'll never understand.
Infracted - enough with belittling others for having a different opinion
Last edited by Kasierith; 2016-04-29 at 03:39 PM.
Children are supposed to fear their parents.
Kids don't these days.
All I see are miserable, spoiled little shits.
Modern day parenting is a lazy joke.
I wasn't offended before and it's posts like this that make me wish we had a like button. Clearly this is a sensitive subject for both sides but you came in and contributed without being offensive to either side and without reading malice in a response that asked you a question. Sadly I have nothing additional to add to the original topic but wanted to drop in and say good form.
I was spanked, a LOT, as a child. It actually largely just aided in humiliating and enraging me. I was about as defiant as one could get. Even between 5-10 years of age I'd give my father a shit-eating look when he spanked me. In my teens I'd throw him over my shoulder and get into outright fights with him. I refused to be lay low without giving something back in turn.
You know what worked oddly well?
Actually having a proper reward/discipline system not based around physical abuse that INCENTIVIZED me to do good. Something we had going for a couple of years before my family fell apart and everything devolved back into a not-so-complex caveman shit-fest. It's one of the reasons I grew up having a distaste for overbearing, authoritarian governments and systems based on penalizing over reward. I see them as inferior, unintelligent, and undeserving of my loyalty.
i bet you are against vaccinations too.
From those "reputable" researchers.