It's like the modern equivalent of reading someone's diary.
Some people are okay with it and some aren't. Doesn't mean they're up to something if they don't like it or they're innocent if they are fine with it.
It's like the modern equivalent of reading someone's diary.
Some people are okay with it and some aren't. Doesn't mean they're up to something if they don't like it or they're innocent if they are fine with it.
I can understand that. I guess if I left the room, and came back and my g/f was just thumbing through my phone, I would have some questions. But in the end, I wouldn't be too upset about it. For one, I know for a fact that my g/f trusts me and has no reason at all not to. So my first instinct wouldn't be that she is spying on me. And secondly, it wouldn't matter to me as I have nothing to hide from her.
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If I were in a relationship I wouldn't mind my girlfriend was looking in my phone because I'm not that kind of guy to be cheating on my partner. We should be open to everything and know everything about each other. Should be no secrets between us. What would be annoying though if she never left me check her phone but she thinks it's ok to check mine. If you're going to be nosy and look in my phone then I'm going to do the same to yours.
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I don't have a girlfriend, but if I had, I suppose I wouldn't be comfortable with her just looking through my phone or an iPad without asking me first; these things contain a lot of private information, and while I would have no secrets from her, I still would expect some kind of privacy "by default".
My gf also checks my phone but i still feel she trusts me.
She just wants to know what my friends are saying or what is going on in the groups im in
And if she does want to check up on me, i dont realy care.
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If someones rooting through your phone that it shows a lack of trust.
My ex-gf was super jealous and paranoid and would always look through my phone, which led to me having to explain any random number i may have called three weeks ago. As someone who worked a job where I had to call co-workers throughout the country for help with issues, this made it really hard to remember every single call I made. I didn't have anything to hide, never even thought about cheating on her. Even turned town girls that hit on me. Yet I had a major problem with her doing it because it showed she had zero trust in me.
My current girlfriend can see my phone any time she wants. Hell, half the time I hand her my phone to take calls and reply to texts if I'm driving. But she doesn't, and I don't look through hers. Because we have a healthy relationship where we trust each other.
So if you're asking why people have a problem with it, then I'm betting you either A) haven't been in a relationship with a super jealous person where you have to explain EVERY little thing you do or B) Are someone who is does it themselves.
women here, think that behavior is controlling and hate it. wouldn't do it to my hubby for the same reason. fuck trust, i don't give a crap if i am trusted and I myself trust nobody, but hell, i want my privacy and independence respected and respect the privacy and independence of others. They don't own me and I don't own them.
Oh I dunno, invasion of privacy maybe?
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I don't care 99.9% of the time, but once in a while I'll text a friend something along the lines of 'I can't wait to have a weekend alone because the woman is driving me crazy' if she's going out of town or something, and that would piss her off a bit. Not doing anything non-trustworthy, but sometimes there's some things she's better off not reading.
Main reason? I will vent to a friend about an argument my gf and I had or something. My conversations with my friends are private, they say things under the assumption that she will not read/hear what they said and vice versa.
She has to trust me in the fact that the only thing I am hiding is how I may talk with someone else when I am mad or something like that. I trust her as well, I may look at her phone for games/pictures but that is it. I won't browse or snoop through conversations and I expect the same. If we aren't on the same page then we might as well move on to someone else. I could delete my conversations and I do often but sometimes I forget and I rather not have to worry about stuff.
My girlfriends don't have a code to my phone.
My wife does.
I usually don't show her pictures from one of the girlfriends because that girlfriend typically sends the pictures to both of us at once (they are dating, too).
The pictures from/with the other girlfriend are only shared with permission, on both sides (with my wife, or her husband).
Really, good communication will eliminate a *lot* of potential drama.
And, yeah, I expect somebody to call me a damned liar. That's cool. I just wanted to put forth a different view of things.
I don't, I have nothing to hide.