I didn't think about this but actually this may very well be the case. She constantly asks one of her other exes for money (he's moving back up here from SF; he works in tech), and is always asking people to help her out in various ways.
I find it strange as I've never had cause to ask for money from anyone ever, I've been self-sufficient since high school.
You gave me something else to think about. Thanks for the advice
So you mean constructive is something that you feel you want to hear? I'm sorry, thats not how it works. This kind of thread, when you already know its none of your business to interfere in other peoples' affairs, is made only for attention. And yeah, saying that is constructive.
What they do is really not your concern. Only reason to involve yourself in the situation is to have power over the course of other peoples' lives - if you meddle, you won't be doing it for "good" reasons, only because meddling is fun. Trust me, I know, it is damn fun. But I doubt it would be worth it.
Really, I'd say to just be honest with the roommate. Not brutally so, but just sitting down for a one-on-one talk, identifying your concerns. Let her know your point of view -- you're concerned for both her and yourself, as it seems the wife of the man does not approve of it, and people can do some very irrational things when they get hurt, emotionally; the last thing you want is the wife tracking him to your place, showing up, and causing a scene. Put it kindly, in a way that she's able to understand where you're coming from, but mostly just let her know your feelings on the potential dangers in the situation. Don't tell her what to do (i.e. "end that relationship or I'm going to find another roommate") as that will only complicate things between you and her -- just let her know you're concerned, and while it is her decision to make on seeing the guy, to just be careful.
As for contacting the wife? I wouldn't, simply because I feel like that would be overstepping boundaries way too much - I probably wouldn't even have a chat with the roommate, myself, I care about other people's involvements in things so little, but I can understand where one would be concerned with the entire situation. In the end, though, think about the consequences of both actions, and which you would regret more, later on in life: not telling the wife (regretting it for moral reasons), or ending a good friendship over something like that. A 'best of both worlds' option would be to try to convince the roommate to stop, however that's a decision that she has to come to, it can't be forced on her. If you can help her come to that decision, I suppose you could try going for it, but just be careful in the way you word things, so they're not taken incorrectly.
Behaviors are contagious - I wouldn't associate with a person like that, let alone live with them.
Stay out of it. Don't start none, won't be none.
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It is none of your business as many others have said, but you also deserve to feel comfortable in your own home. If it's not something you feel you can live with, I would talk to your roommate. Share how you feel and maybe ask she be more discreet. It's an accommodation for you to be sure but given the situation I don't think it's unreasonable. All relationships are give and take and you've given plenty of your patience toward the matter it seems. A little give on her part is fair.
Yes you should call him a slut to if you have the need to point out that she´s one. The thing that irritated me was, well noone did, all namecalling such as whore/slut was pointed to the roommate. And good for you being able to call yourself a former whore, but it doesnt work just as easy for a girl to do that, and we both know that. Thats a problem, 2016, in my opinion. But thanks for the warning, I will watch out for that thing called life.