Friends with Benefits

[Deleted]

What, when you think date do you think some romantic Lady & and the Tramp Italian spaghetti dinner?

Yeah, in the English-speaking world, "date" typically means between potential romantic/sexual interests.

[Celista]

I think there are definite times where a guy is just interested in sex but proceeds like he wants a relationship. I think this is dishonest (whether the behavior is intentional or no) and really unnecessary in the age of Tinder.

I'm sure women do it too. Just be straightforward with what you want.

[THE Bigzoman]

Yeah, in the English-speaking world, "date" typically means between potential romantic/sexual interests.

Actually, i'm pretty sure it just means a social engagement with another person.

[Deleted]

Actually, i'm pretty sure it just means a social engagement with another person.

Well yeah it's clear that's what you think it means. We established that already.

[May90]

Actually, i'm pretty sure it just means a social engagement with another person.

Hmm... I'm pretty sure that if I suggest my advisor a date, he will be pretty surprised.

[starlord]

you should conserve your precious bodily fluids anyways.

[THE Bigzoman]

Hmm... I'm pretty sure that if I suggest my advisor a date, he will be pretty surprised.

True story though.

My mentor is a old latino guy.

We had brunch last week. When he asked me if I wanted to meet up, I said cool, it's a date.

Not even a wtf.


Not sure why people think a well established romantic interest is a necessary condition for an ethical "date".


Attraction usually develops through interaction. Sometimes, people want different things from people that are different from what they originally thought. Sometimes, they need to come to the realization that they want something, or maybe they decide they don't want anything after all.


Just go on the fucking ride. See what happens.

[Celista]

Hmm... I'm pretty sure that if I suggest my advisor a date, he will be pretty surprised.

Hand him a rose while you're asking him to dinner, that will make your intentions clear.

[nonameelf]

you should conserve your precious bodily fluids anyways.

If guys don't regularly get rid of it it will come out while they sleep. Though, that doesn't require the participation of anyone else.

[Crissi]

@The BANNzoman

I had feelings, I decided to stop talking for awhiles, he admits to me later he liked me a ton and I was the best he ever had. SO...probably missed signals there somewhere.

Also, you can totaly change your avatar back now. Pretty sure its been 3 weeks.

[THE Bigzoman]

@The BANNzoman

I had feelings, I decided to stop talking for awhiles, he admits to me later he liked me a ton and I was the best he ever had. SO...probably missed signals there somewhere.

Also, you can totaly change your avatar back now. Pretty sure its been 3 weeks.

I hope you know that I was just playing.

I honestly forgot that I still had this.

It became a part of me.

I might have to change my name to the Bazznoman just for that shit.

[alexw]

you should conserve your precious bodily fluids anyways.

Indeed they are....

[Crissi]

I hope you know that I was just playing.

I honestly forgot that I still had this.

It became a part of me.

Oh you can still totally still be Chibi Moon if you want. You totally rock it.

and heh. I never know anymore. My AC was broken the last 12 hours and my brain melted. Also, the FwB thing was soooo long ago. like 2011.

[Torgent]

I am not saying women are obligated to sleep with men. I am saying that most women are not open to sex outside of a serious relationship. They want the man to be trapped in a serious relationship before they do anything physical.

Those terrible women wanting sex to be an intimate thing. How dare they make their own decisions. It's not their fault that they don't want to be in a relationship with you. There are plenty of girls that have sex outside of relationships, again, it's not their fault if you don't meet their standards.

[ItachiZaku]

In my years on this planet, this generalization seems to have shifted quite a bit. Nowadays, it feels as if the men have become more wanting of some status, while the females more free with themselves and not wanting to be shackled. As I am old, I'm on the fence as to how I feel about that, as quite a few chicks I'm interested in are down to pound, I'd rather not as I'm looking for more than just fun tonight... but I still do have fun tonight, I just usually hope it's more than just tonight.

On the flip side, if that night wasn't all that great, I'm kinda good with knowing there wasn't a ton of time and energy put into something that culminated in a lack of future endeavour potential.

[Hana Song]

Why is that ridiculous that people want a relationship before sex?
Seems you think women have to have sex with you because you want it

[tankbug]

If women claim that they are so independent and don't need a man, then why do they control them through sex to get whatever they want. .

Being independent doesn't contradict the wish to gain power, right?

[Deleted]

Why is that ridiculous that people want a relationship before sex?

Because the OP doesn't like it, as it causes him to be "trapped" in a relationship first lol

Objectively, there is obviously nothing ridiculous about it. Whatsoever.

[Deleted]

Not in a critically social society. Increased pair bonds increase fitness. That why humans have sex even when they're not at their most fertile, like other primates do. Sex is a tool of pair bonding more often than it is a tool of reproduction in humans. Otherwise your explanation would be correct (and it is, for many other species).

I rather think this is a cultural outcome - we haven't quite overcome our ideas of ownership by marriage, and historically it's been far more acceptable for men to sleep around due to deep cultural misogyny.

I agree with you that sex (by women mostly) is used as a form of pair bonding, however women will most likely do this to only one man, since attempting to bond with multiple men would cause rifts in both the relationships.

[Deleted]

I don't get why people have something against relationships, a relationship provides you with all kinds of beneficial things.

Nothing beats coming home to someone after a long day of work.

I'm a dude but I'm not really that much into "friends with benefits" or one night stands since usually one of the two participants wants more. Which is very understandable since love is one of the things what makes a life worth living. I'm usually the one who wants more, the go long and steady kind of guy. Takes me a while to find someone but when I do it wont be temporary.