I used to live in a house with 4 roommates; one of them was jobless, i.e. he worked exactly 0h a week. But somehow no one was crying about it, and we all did our share of chores, which was around 20%. Our reasoning was simple: we all live in this house and we all equally want it to be in a good shape. It didn't matter how much free time each of us had, it was irrelevant in the matter.
Your extra working hours do not entitle you to anything at home. You get paid for your extra hours, that is your benefit. You don't get the benefit of doing other things less, just because you do one more. That's the way I see it, at least.
Just stop calculating hours and being petty and do your share. Lest, should you happen to lose a job, you will have to do 45 hours of chores a week. You don't want that, do you?
I'm about 76% sure that OP is single as fuck if he actually thinks this would be an appropriate way to speak to a significant other. "Yeah sorry babe, I worked overtime this week. So you have 10 hours of house cleaning today because I'm more important."
Whoever works more does less chores, that's only natural. But you saying "You work 7 hours less, so you do 7 hours of chores" is you saying that your partner gets to work 7 hours more without being paid. Split it with more on their side, because that's fair, rather than just saying what you did. Or, spend some of your dineros hiring someone to clean.
Idk, I have to say that most long term-ish couples I've seen the women were more like @Crissi and the ladies were pretty pissed or at least annoyed about it. Ofc there's a bit of a bias there as the guys in the relationship aren't quite as likely to bitch about their girlfriends to me.
Shrug. My theory is that women in general value relationships more so they're willing to put up with more bad behavior. I know some people here will disagree, not everyone's relationship is the same.
I will agree that cooking seems to be somewhat of a lost art. Fast food generation.
Well if he wants her to actually do 7 more h of chores then that's a problem. I'll just give him the benefit of the doubt due to a poorly explained situation since there was an example where she was at home since 5 and he comes in at 8 and is asked to do the laundry. If it's cases like that i.e. working 10-12h and when you get home you get told to do the laundry he does have a point as far as that goes.
And then she'll have him do them again You're supposed to act like a couple, not a single-mom with a lazy shitead child that can't do any kind of housework. A man who doesn't know how to take care of his home (changing bed sheets, cleaning, fucking remove pee stains from around the toilet) is a complete turnoff.
If you're going to do something, at least do it the proper way.
OP; stop crying like a little girl and get shit done.
Originally Posted by Vaerys
I've seen that picture posted here before and I'll say what I said then
"How did you find my house"
But really, this obsession over equitable distribution of chores and perfect fairness over working hours in the home is part of why couples are so unhappy these days - and feminism is absolutely to blame for that stingy mindset
It's like penny-pinching in relationships, and that simply doesn't work
I know this sounds weird from someone who isn't married, but I've had more relationships than most, and the best ones are about cooperation and symbiosis, not adversity and an obsessive quest for equity
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how the fuck do you even have 7 hours worth of chores around the house
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Man stuff usually takes longer, by man stuff I mean "that's your job, because you're a guy" kind of stuff. Other than that, I have no idea how the hell one could have 7 hours of chores, I have a huge lawn, takes me about 3½ hours to cut, trim, and edge - every other week.
the one thing i could think of that might actually fit having 7+ hours of chores is having young children but idk if that counts as generic chores
like, what else is there? vacuum once a month? put the dishes in the dishwasher? put on a load of washing twice a week tops?
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I was wondering the same. I could clean our 2 story 4 bedroom house in less than 7 hours. And that's really cleaning. Like scrubbing toilets and tubs and doing all the laundry. If it's just picking shit up and putting it where it belong or doing the dishes, 1 hour tops.
I will admit though, when my wife was stay at home mom, I'd come home after 10-11 hour shift and the house would be a pig sty and nothing to eat, I'd get a little pissy.
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You only vacuum once a month ? That's nuts to me. But I have two kids and a lab that loses more hair than Lebron. Seems like the vacuum is always going.
Even if you vacuum every day and live in a decent sized home, you're looking at 8 minutes a day, maybe 15 if you are mental.. We do dishes every night, takes like 5 minutes tops and that's when the kids decide they needed a new cup for every drink they got for the day. Kids as chores would really be grasping for conversation piece, but wouldn't surprise me on mmo-c.
A week of laundry, dishes, vacuuming and all the other shit that comes with owning a home and having kids is non-existent to the claim of 7 hours.
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Essentially, both parties should be mature enough to just do what needs to be done when it needs to be done.
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