Tolerance is the virtue of the man without convictions.
What people call impartiality may simply mean indifference, and what people call partiality may simply mean mental activity.
There is only one thing that requires real courage to say, and that is a truism.
-GK Chesterton
What are we gonna do now? Taking off his turban, they said, is this man a Jew?
'Cause they're working for the clampdown
They put up a poster saying we earn more than you!
When we're working for the clampdown
We will teach our twisted speech To the young believers
We will train our blue-eyed men To be young believers
It's more that any claims about "real Islam" are based on fearmongering and propaganda, not facts. Just like they would be if you started talking about "real Christianity" and citing abortion clinic bombings and the like. It's just nonsense.
Unless all Muslims agree with you, it isn't "real Islam", it's just a particular sect's interpretation, at best, and most of the things people take issue with aren't even that, they're regional or political.
Again; Malala Yousafzai is Muslim. If your views on what "real Islam" believe don't cover her work for women's rights and education in the Muslim world, then you don't have any idea what Islam actually is.