I don't mind paying a lot of times. I often buy a friends meal when we meet for lunch.
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I would be more apt to go on a second date if the guy paid. If he didn't no big deal, but I prob wouldn't call him back. Tradition, respect, proof of providing...whatever the reason is, It's a good sign if the guy offers to pay for the first date. Though to be clear, I would offer to pay my half. And I would never expect to be supported in a relationship. But if I ever needed to be, it's good to know he can and would. As I would for him. Cheapskates are terrible.
I'm not sure how this works with gay couples? Hmm.
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Why did you create a new thread? Use the search function and post in existing threads!
Why did you necro a thread?
You invite, you pay.
You get invite they pay.
If you agree on splitting the bill, you split the bill.
Why is this a topic?
Men will be horny, and pay for the bills. Women will laugh at men.
Doesn't matter. If you're showing up to a first meet empty-handed it's going to come across as rude.
Just as a personal anecdote. My first meeting with my wife was a trip to a shoot pool. Before we even met in person she asked if there was a bar inside it. When I told her there was she bought the first round while I paid for the first hour of pool. For both of us it showed that we were both able to take care of ourselves without needing to rely on the other. That's a courteous gesture...
Usually I'm the one that pays, but if the guy speaks up and really wants to pay, I won't hold him back on it. I do enjoy quality food though, so if him paying means that I have to skip out on whatever I desire to eat, then I'd rather just pay myself. I'd say about 70+% of all the dates that I went on, I paid. 10% would be split equally down the middle, 10% would be only paying for your own food, and 10% would be men that wouldn't allow me to pay for whatever reason. Granted, of the margin of men that didn't allow me to pay for myself in some fashion, a few of them expected me to have sex with them because they paid for the food, long after the fact, of course, as well as after I had to be talked out of paying because of whatever his reasons were. *Shrugs*
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Some traditions/ old rules never die apparently.
Just like men are not allowed to hit back when a woman violently attacks them.
i won't ever pay for a girls dinner anymore *least not first date, maybe later ones, but i have not gotten that far*
always end up I paying for date so she gets free movie/food/etc and then end up being ignored the whole time trying to start a conversation but no connection happens.....
basically i am jaded from bad experience even though my date experience is limited to only a few.
and i know for a fact one used me for exactly what i said. (other's i just think so)
maybe i am the problem, but i think it is my dates. But at least i have not dated a Feminazi, those poor men who do......i hear to many bad stories about these kind of dates were literally first date the woman is making a list of demands for the perfect male or leave......
What is it your unsure about? I would never go on a second date with a guy who didn't offer to pay for the first date. I don't personally know any guys who would ever ask a women to pay on the first date either. Just the type of men I know, age range, and area I live in I guess. Of course, I have been married forever, so I'm kind of out of the loop on new age dating. But yeah, If a guy asked me to pay for half, no prob. I do this when i go out with friends all the time. And that is what he will be to me a friend.