Me and my partner have a shared income, and when we dated (we're engaged now) she mostly paid for it all - because I was the one forking over £700 a pop to come over to see her in her native China.
I pay for 30-45 mins and then they leave.
You cared enough to post.
Hmm, how do you think do gay/lesbian dates work? Who is the pursuer and who is the pursued? And those people constitute up to 20% of the entire population, according to various sources.
My point is, regardless of how rare it is, this role separation exists only as long as both persons are willing to play this weird game. One doesn't - the game isn't on. People complain about being on either side of the fence, but in reality you don't have to be on either.
Ha-h... One of the most painful moments in my life was when someone was seriously interested in me and I had to say "No", because the interest wasn't mutual. Damn that. I wouldn't call that preferable!
I was raised to believe the man should pay because it takes the woman more time, money and effort to get ready for a date than it takes for the man.
If you invite someone somewhere, you should at least offer to pay.
some courtship rituals are pretty traditional and hard to break off from because of the qualities they give people the impression of. Men are supposed to be providers and if you can't pick up a check for dinner how are you ever going to buy a house or afford an engagement ring, let alone feed, clothe and father a child?
if it's a "hassle" to pick up a check for a date, then you should probably choose better company or just eat somewhere less expensive.
I would hazard a guess that it comes down to personality, which probably (though I really have no idea) divides almost roughly exactly the same way normal dates would. There will be the "aggressive / dominant" person, and the more passive one. How often do you see two Butch Lesbians dating eacchother? Probably not nearly as often as you see one Butch lesbian dating a more "feminine" lesbian. Same thing applys to Gay men. As such, I would be willing to bet that the more "masculine" of the pair is the one doing the chasing, and also the one more likely expected to pay for the date. Primarily because such behaviour has been ingrained into our collective subconcious for generations.
What if two very feminine lesbians are dating each other? I do not quite understand why the chasing/hunting part should be involved at all. After all, two people are getting to know each other better, they have a mutual goal and mutual interest - no need to play these Tom and Jerry games.
But I see your point and I agree that in many cases it is probably like you describe.