I don't know what it's like to love someone but learn to control your emotions and that shit is gonna go away eventually.
I don't know what it's like to love someone but learn to control your emotions and that shit is gonna go away eventually.
He's lied to the new one.
I wonder how big the lie is, maybe she thinks he's a surgeon or something.
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Okay, I've given it some thought. OP should tell his current gf that he is actually a dormant CIA operative who has been "activated" to go on a mission. He should tell the second woman that he's a travelling salesman, and he's broke because of a tragic drug addiction.
Serious answer: OP you hate your life and you're trying to escape it by creating a fantasy life with another person. Please go to therapy before you fuck things up even worse than you already have.
Last edited by Celista; 2016-06-28 at 07:08 PM.
I told her I work as IT professional in a pharmaceutical company. I know a lot about computers so as soon as I talk about data centers and routers I already sound "intellectual" to her. But no, I did not say I was something really unbelievable like a athlete or doctor or anything I don't really know stuff about..
My advice is to not overrate being in love. I know it's a wonderful feeling, but chances are it will go away after a few months to a year or two. If you've been together 14 years that's as good as it gets. Pause to look back on it and appreciate all the good things it has given you. Finally, if you like children (and seeing as the other woman also has a child, I assume you do) your relationship will change anyway when raising a child together, as it will make you a family with a common goal.
In short, end the facebook relationship and don't tell your pregnant girlfriend about it, just try to move on and look forward to what's coming for you two.
I don't mind insulting people. OP, you're a piece of shit.
Well you fucked right up OP. But don't listen to these salty replies from a bunch of Millennials. YOU need to weigh up the pros and cons of leaving her in this state. You have to weigh up the benefits of moving out while having to pay child support for the next 18 years. In the end mate you need to live for your own happiness, not for others so leave if you need to but its the cost of child support and missing out on both the good and the bad of raising a child. Good luck OP.
I may not agree with what you say but I will fight to the death to defend your right to say it.
See the edit in that post. Do you have some sort of clinical depression?
I know you THINK you love this woman (that you have only seen three times) but really this is about your discontent in your own life/freaking out about being a parent. Which is why you are lying so much about it.
I bet before the new girl came along you were always dreaming about moving to Europe and playing in a band or something similar. You're just looking for an escape route instead of trying to fix your life.
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Sounds to me like the Millennials in this thread have better sense than the OP.
Except there are no pros in this scenario, he leaves his wife who supports him (he's unemployed) and goes with a new woman who he's been lying to about being employed and single. There are only cons and he dug his own grave. But you could always just fuck off towards the both of them and start fresh. But y'know, gonna be hard to pay child support when you're unemployed...
The easiest way for me is just to live the lie, drop the new girl (which, again, is not entirely new, I knew her when I was young and rediscovered her now).. and raise my own child.. My brain knows this is the easiest route. It is just that my heart feels something I never felt before for the new girl and it is hard to suddenly go "sorry but I am gone, don't try to talk to me anymore" to her. She is pretty, she is nice and honest to me, she is willing to make me the daddy of her daughter.
So in a way, she is EVERYTHING I want in life. If I wasn't attached to my pregnant GF.