This x100,000,000
I hate it when people whine about the "friendzone" there is no zone in which you are trapped and forced to be in. Figure out how to keep your emotions controlled and ask the person out or what have you, if they say yes then awesome. If they say no, which is an answer you'll likely get if you're the type of person to whine about the "friendzone" in the first place, accept the friendship and move on--or stop hanging around them and move past it.
Yeah but there's two types of friendzone I guess. The first being where a dude develops a huge crush on a girl who has absolutely no feelings for him and then he bitches about being in the friendzone. The second is being lead on. Where the girl flirts and treats the friendship as a relationship and you may even fuck around a few times then she hits you with the let's just be friends and by this point you're already halfway on the line so you have a legitimate excuse to be sad. The latter keeps happening to me so I just usually won't text girls back, ignore them, or I'll be really sarcastic and/or short to them in person
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I feel really bad actually. I'm not sure which is worse:
1. When you go on a first date and feel nothing but they are really into it;
2. When you just know them from friends/work/school and they are really into you and you aren't.
Very sad all around.
You can't friendzone anybody. Firendzone is always mutual.
Meh, everyone is in the friend zone. The difference is whether or not you agree to be intimate. Deciding to no longer be intimate shouldn't really be a big deal. If it is to them, it's probably a good thing you made that decision. Over-sensitive people are bat-shit.
don't know about others, but when I rejected someone after essentially dating them (unless fucking around and flirting means something else nowadays?) is if it wasn't working out for me. mostly fucking around not being all that great. which, I happen to think is fair. I'm not obligated to tolerate bad sex. but... in that vein... if this keeps happening to you, you have to ask yourself couple of questions. do you keep gravitating to manipulative women if it keeps happening to you? if the answer is yes - maybe its time to reexamine what you are attracted to and maybe try dating out of your usual "type" or.... maybe you are not so great at fucking around and that's why they keep rejecting you. in that case - well, if you actualy care about your partners pleasure, techniques can be learned. if you don't really care, than.. there's your problem.
but seriously... not all relationships work out. being broken up with, becasue for whatever reason it didn't work out? is not a friendzone. its a breakup. (and wanting to remain friends doesn't make it a friendzone either. its wanting to keep in touch with a person you like, but who didn't quite fit in a romantic/sexual/whatever sense)
Last edited by Witchblade77; 2016-07-23 at 04:51 PM.
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The first isn't a "friendzone", it's a guy getting a crush on a girl and then being rejected because she didn't feel the same when he made a move. Or he doesn't make a move and then traps himself in a weird emotional vortex with the expectation that... "Well maybe one day if I keep being the same type of person around her she'll make a move...she'll finally just understand..." That's just self-deluded obsession.
The second isn't a friendzone in any sense of the word. They aren't a friend and they aren't putting you into a zone. If someone is leading you on you can generally tell by looking out for the red flags. A lot of the responses you say you give to people that "lead you on" is petty, small, and a waste of energy on your part. Especially the being short and really sarcastic to them.
If they are really some cunt who's emotionally puppeteering you, then fuck them. Stop talking to them, stop associating yourself with them. By acting how you do towards them you're just giving them more power in recognizing the effect they had on you. Apathy hurts people like that much much more than being an asshole to them, deserved or not. If you find that this sort of thing is consistently happening to you, then either how you interact with women is the problem and you aren't able to recognize that, or you just haven't been tracking the red flags that that type of person gives off and don't recognize that with new women you meet. Or some combination thereof.
Regardless, there is no such thing as the friendzone.
In my opinion.