They are coming from a place where their option for a home is rubble or a bomb hole. They are unsatisfied at being GIVEN a home.
Be grateful to receive anything live your life become a citizen and then find a job where you "want" to be. They should be happy to be anywhere away from that hell on earth where the wife and daughters would have to fear a life of sex slavery every day. There is no place in my mind where I can come to sympathize with their disappointment at being able to live.