My view......
As a female, its very important to me that my partner knows how to get me off with his "...." before I marry him. I don't want to marry a lazy only for themselves lay.. I'm not into oral or outer stimulation. whatever the reason, it's a turn off. Size matters as well.. your gonna be with this person for the rest of your life you need to know these things.. I'm not saying sex is the most important thing but it's up there.. I remember my first time.. it was sad and disappointing and if I had balls they would have been blue.. not something I would have wanted on my wedding night lmao!
Been with my soon to be husband for over 11 years and he never gets old..