I dun goofed. (Nowhere to turn to)

[Azadina]

I don't disagree with you on this. What worries me that this could be just a passing thing that could ruin a friendship and a relationship if I overreact, but I also worry that if I don't do something about it, I'll make a mess of it all and regret it later on.

It could be, but if it's not, then you've blown your chance to talk about it when there's still time, if you decide to be quiet and wait.

It's up to you to decide whether you wish to gamble with it.

Step by step instructions for you. Very simple fix.
-delete all social media
-throw away cell phone
-move away and live alone
-play legion all day and all night
-profit

If Blizzards great servers worked properly for once.

[Deleted]

just don't tell your "friend" about your feelings towards her. You will lose her forever.

[Breccia]

The fact that you're upset that you're jealous, is enough to prove this isn't a problem you can't beat. Remember, you and this 7-year friend of yours have never been in a serious relationship. You had your chances, you never went for it. Either of you. You both know it's not happening. Jealousy is temptation, but you didn't act on it, and seem upset by even that.

You are dating your girlfriend, and not your booty call, for a reason. And you know what that reason is.

[I Push Buttons]

Ask girlfriend and girl friend if they are down for a threesome, obviously.

Super simple stuff.

[Turtlewithnoshell]

It could be, but if it's not, then you've blown your chance to talk about it when there's still time, if you decide to be quiet and wait.

It's up to you to decide whether you wish to gamble with it.



If Blizzards great servers worked properly for once.

I didn't have any problems at launch or for 20 hours after. /shrug

[Kapadons]

Which one is hotter? Which is better in bed? Which one gives more blow jobs. Weigh those and you shall have the answer.

[Elder Millennial]

Do you want a romantic relationship with F? Maybe the jealousy wasn't because the new guy is with her in that capacity. Maybe you're feeling protective of whatever it is you guys have at the moment, and felt his presence threatened that?

I have no idea. I feel jealousy, anger and odd need to be with her (not sexually, but more like for her to be around).

Your feelings are most likely just a passing thing.

Yeah...it's just they have been hella intense. I'm doing my best to be normal, but I have this very intense mental itch and odd gut feeling. All that, and an unhealthy chunk of weird tension and aimless anger. That's why I know it's affecting my GF. She is trying to be supportive because she thinks it's family or work related or something that I need time to talk about. (I haven't mislead her, I just said I don't wanna talk about it). It's another thing gnawing at my mind and is making me feel guilty as hell.

I don't know whether I'm just being a drama queen, losing my mind, in love, or hitting a very early midlife crisis (tho no urges to buy a Porsche).

[Independent voter]

Is this your blog?

http://www.lovelifeblogireland.com/

[Gib Lover]

Honestly, I think this could be all sorted out with a good long playthrough of Fallout 4. You can take your mind off things in the wastelands of Boston, fighting Radroaches and Supermutants. Sleep with one eye open in the streets of the city, and keep a finger on the trigger because you never know when a raider might decide you look like easy prey.

And when you finish Fallout 4, might I suggest purchasing the DLC available?

You're relationship problems will be solved in no time thanks to Bethesda's Fallout 4

[Faenskap]

Maybe it would be best to cut the contact with your friend?

[alexw]

I have no idea. I feel jealousy, anger and odd need to be with her (not sexually, but more like for her to be around).



Yeah...it's just they have been hella intense. I'm doing my best to be normal, but I have this very intense mental itch and odd gut feeling. All that, and an unhealthy chunk of weird tension and aimless anger. That's why I know it's affecting my GF. She is trying to be supportive because she thinks it's family or work related or something that I need time to talk about. (I haven't mislead her, I just said I don't wanna talk about it). It's another thing gnawing at my mind and is making me feel guilty as hell.

I don't know whether I'm just being a drama queen, losing my mind, in love, or hitting a very early midlife crisis (tho no urges to buy a Porsche).

Sounds like this.

[Hey There Guys its Metro]

"No where" would be a better place to turn to then here.
The quicker you realize that relationship advice from strangers only makes things worse they quicker you will be able to have a relationship that doesn't require advice for.

[Celista]

This. I don't know why people have this idea that they will find someone and they will be in love for all their life. Relationships have ups and downs, if you break up in the first down you will never have a lasting relationship. Then again, if you feel like that for too long, then revisit the issue.

In my experience, people act like this when they always have one foot out the door. It prevents them from actually being emotionally connected within the relationship, either by having a "close friend" on the side (that they are more attached/emotionally intimate with than their partner) or actually having sex with someone else throughout the relationship.

Basically it's that person's way of avoiding pain/hurt by their partner.

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I have no idea. I feel jealousy, anger and odd need to be with her (not sexually, but more like for her to be around).



Yeah...it's just they have been hella intense. I'm doing my best to be normal, but I have this very intense mental itch and odd gut feeling. All that, and an unhealthy chunk of weird tension and aimless anger. That's why I know it's affecting my GF. She is trying to be supportive because she thinks it's family or work related or something that I need time to talk about. (I haven't mislead her, I just said I don't wanna talk about it). It's another thing gnawing at my mind and is making me feel guilty as hell.

I don't know whether I'm just being a drama queen, losing my mind, in love, or hitting a very early midlife crisis (tho no urges to buy a Porsche).

You're not in love. If you think you are then it's kindof messed up that you decided this when you suddenly can't have your FWB because both of you are in relationships, isn't it?

I think you should spend some time thinking about why the two of you never decided to be in a relationship before this happened. Also whether you view your FWB as an escape hatch of sorts, and whether or not your feelings are actually fueled by her being unavailable to you at current.

[Justpassing]

One word: Threesome.

[Jester Joe]

You're not in love. If you think you are then it's kindof messed up that you decided this when you suddenly can't have your FWB because both of you are in relationships, isn't it?

I think you should spend some time thinking about why the two of you never decided to be in a relationship before this happened. Also whether you view your FWB as an escape hatch of sorts, and whether or not your feelings are actually fueled by her being unavailable to you at current.

And don't confuse lust for love.

[Rudkobing]

Worst place in the Universe to ask this. These idiots don't know their ass from their hand.

[Berengil]

Tell your FWB that you're becoming uncomfortable with the "benefits" side of it. Then tell her that even if the two of you are single at the same time again, it's not happening. And ask her to keep that part of your mutual past to herself.

[Aucald]

I'd wager you are hedging your bets in your current relationship by keeping this partial relationship open with your friend, either pointedly or subconsciously. If you care for and want to take your current relationship to its next step then I would advise you reinvest yourself in it, and let go of the relationship you maintain with your other friend in the process (it may or may not get broken in the process if you can't manage platonic distance from it). If you aren't invested in your current relationship then you should let it go, and after a respectable period of being single approach your friend and let your true feelings towards her be known. Let her make her own choice with this knowledge and you will either find yourself in a new relationship with her or in no relationship at all. Reconcile your emotions and choose the path you think would be best.

[Coombs]

Sooner or later it slips up, and then you're in an awkward situation like OP. Just because you chose to lie, or seemingly in this case, hide things.

Lol this isn't the magical TV faerie land. You can lie and not get caught, ever. People do it all the time. In reality bad people aren't always punished, and good people are hardly rewarded.

[VTerpsichore]

Try to forget about it and stay with your GF.

if you tell your GF you might lose her, you might not, but she'll hold it over you and if she does, you wont want her.

if you tell the "friend" you might stop being friends cuz she thinks you wanna be more than friends and she might not.
if she does in fact want you, she'll dump the BF and you will end up leaving her sooner or later cuz she's always been just a booty call, and you'll not have anyone.

like your friends say, lose lose situation.

stay with your GF, stay friends with your "friend"
do your best to get it out of your mind

good luck

also like Genn said, this is no place to ask advice.