I get your point, it's an understandable one, and certainly has merit.
I believe what we're seeing now is a self-prophetic problem with police shootings where the community is giving bad advice which creates more intense interaction between the police and the community. The advice seems to be, police are bad, don't do what they say, stay in your car and roll up the windows. This leads to situations where police are put in the position of trying to discern why someone is not complying. Historically, only people with things to hide are typically going to be those not complying. When someone does not comply, the assumption has to be made that there is a reason for this, and that this person has now become suspect of something, and is possibly dangerous.
The interaction between police and civilians is the responsibility of both parties, yet many want to focus on only one. We see one side continue to hold the police solely responsible for the situations arising, regardless of the action of civilian in the matter. They believe the police should always error on the side of the safety of the civilian over their own safety, which is completely opposite of the training being given to police. There will still be situations where the officers are wrong, but if we all complied with the order of law enforcement, we'd have an even lower incident rate that we already have.