The rites being similar does not mean the intentions are the same, and like I said, intentions are the crux of the point. Now an argument can be made that making the rights similar is in poor taste regardless of the intentions, but poor taste does not equal idolatry.
I have similar discussions with traditional Catholics who strongly prefer the Tridentine Mass over the Novus Ordo that is more commonly practiced after Vatican II. They make a bunch of what I feel are legitimate points about how the older form of Mass is more reverent, has a better flow etc. etc. I tend to agree with them. Where I depart however is when they act as though these differences in style amount to blasphemy. One does not equal the other.
The same is true with our discussion. There is a long distance between poor taste and Idolatry. I can see how from your perspective that the moment of silence is a bit much, but from mine, the moment of silence is not for the piece of cloth, but rather my brothers who's coffins were draped in it. That is the thing about symbols. They represent things other than themselves.