Nothing about your entire approach says "hardcore" anywhere. You can seemingly find time to full clear current raid content, but can't find the time to form your own goddamn groups?
You have trouble farming gold in an expansion where almost any profession can net you tons of money if you do it right, you don't want to make your own groups, do poor DPS for your current gear level, and then complain that RNGesus hasn't handed you gear on a silver platter and call the system flawed when in reality, you get out of it what you put into it. I put in the hours of farming because RNGesus wasn't kind to me, and guess what I have? 7 pieces of Leatherworking gear crafted and upgraded to 850 that are perfectly itemized for my character. My alt has 850 pieces upgraded with Obliterum as well because instead of being lazy and waiting to get handed loot, I went out and farmed what I needed myself. If you don't have time to make groups, don't have time to farm, and don't have time to improve your DPS, what the hell are you even playing the game for?
You also say that your "friends" won't play with you because you have low ilvl. Sounds like you really need some new friends.