Again you are missing the point and I don't suspect you ever will connect the dots.
Instead of looking at others maybe you should look at yourself. This isn't an issue of right or wrong.
The mere fact you would just D/E as a first instinct reveals what most need to know.
Jesus Christ dude. The way you argue plus the sheer number of posts you have here really says it all about you. I normally never feel sorry for someone like you, because frankly, you are just annoying and should sod off, but you....the god damn level of insecurity and low self esteem is just beyond comprehension.
Seriously dude, you need something other than wow in your life.
If you are a decent human being with high ethical and moral standards you would have asked if someone wanted the item. You chose to be morally depraved so I feel that they did the right thing and kicked you and I'm glad they did. You've now been fotced to come to an Internet forum where other morally depraved minds lurk to validate your actions to make yourself either feel like you've done the right thing or to complain that you were kicked for 'freedom of the individual'.
Co-operation always beats competition. A vast majority of the world's problems exist due to attitudes like yours. Yes it only a game but if you behave like that in a game you'll also have world views and morals that reflect your personality.
This is a touchy topic for sure. Generally I think it's best to ask if anyone needs it, or if there's only 1 other same armor type you can inspect them.
But, there is 1 big issue around this whole topic. That is that the purples will de into chaos crystals worth 900g. I've had someone at the end of a run ask for an item saying it was an upgrade, get it, and then (being a major jerk), de'd it right there in front of everyone for themselves.
Or a couple of situations that are even more complex are that I've seen people ask for items just for xmog also, and at that point it's like who's more deserving of it me for the 900g crystal or this person just for xmog? Then you've also got people asking for items that are a sidegrade, and again is their sidegrade more deserving than your own 900g crystal. Or another one where I had an 865 piece drop, I already had an 865 piece for that slot, but the stats were better on the new one that dropped. Is my better stat roll but same ilvl > the massive upgrade for the person asking for it? These things all get to be tough decisions.
All that said, I haven't seen people kicked for not sharing. It's more of a nice thing to do than a requirement that I've seen, unless the group specifically stated loot sharing in lfg. I would suggest if you are not going to share and are going to DE, to at very least wait until after the run and the group breaks so it's not a rude shoving it in your face kind of thing.
You should've just said it was soulbound or some shit. The game decided that you won the item, and you should be able to do with it as you see fit. Kicking you out of a dungeon because of loot is super excessive in my opinion, but then again, I really don't and have never given a shit about gear.
Unless YOU ask them if they want to be friends for future runs, that's what I do when I find someone I enjoyed playing with. This is also how I got into my first guild a decade ago, I was looking for a dungeon group and someone in Trade Chat (naturally...) was looking for a healer. I joined and I had a blast and the group was friendly and I added them on my friendslist, a couple days later one of them whispered me and asked if I wanted to join for more dungeons and I said yes. This continued for a little while until they asked if I wanted to join their guild and possibly raid.
I rarely, if ever, pug anymore but when I do pug I come with an open mind that someone in that group might be a good player that I could recommend to my guild for a potential raid spot.
Be like that and you'll find yourself a lot more pre made groups and a lot less pugging where you do run into all kinds of scum and assholes. There's a growing trend in *trolling* in Mythic + where shitheads join Mythic + groups and then leave when the timer is started, this is griefing and a bannable offence if there's multiple reports! However that doesn't fix that your keystone got screwed over... best way to avoid this? find people you trust won't do it, how you do that? by being a decent player and a decent person!
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Its your loot, do what you want.
Its his instance, he does what he wants.
The kind thing to do is to ask if someone needs the item before Disenchanting or selling it.
Making personal loot tradeable has created a new way to allow random strangers to be a nice and helpful to each other, and providing an incentive for people to be on their best behavior to encourage that guy to drop the titanforged item they don't need later on.
Everyone's always complaining about "toxic community", why would you want to discourage this by being a dick and disenchanting an item someone else can use ?
Karma pays it forward too.
Sheer number of posts? You have 22. Unless there's soma magical threshold between 22 and 27/28 this is you being a hypocrite (no way /s). And yeah your "you don't subscribe to my fallacious reasoning? it's a fact you're 16" and some hurrdurring about comparing me to your children (gotta lol about being annoying or insecure in light of that) were quality contributions fer sure. And, frankly, I care little what an entitled crybaby thinks of me. And I'm being generous with that description.
If someone ever demands I give them something I got with personal loot, assuming I don't equip it myself, I will either vendor or disenchant it in front of them and tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine. I do not tolerate demands.
If they ask nicely for it, or say "hey, can I have that if you don't need it, it's an upgrade for me", sure I'll give it to them. Basically, don't be an ahole.
disenchanting an item before asking if someone needs it is kinda inconsiderate and selfish
i mean it's your call, but then dont be surprised people kick you for it
See this is the only time I'd reluctantly not give an item away. I'd say ask politely before giving them the ultimatum. If their response was along the lines of 'fuck you' or 'no' then I would get rid of the item even as far as deleting. It's about standing on higher moral ground.
I actually don't D/E as a first instinct because I'm to focused on getting through the dungeon as fast as possible to be worried about D/Eing on the spot.
I guess I will go back to your last post an answer point by point and then maybe you can actually answer mine.
I don't mind giving people items that are upgrades for them. I just also have needs in game that conflicts with my ability to hand over items to people.
It's not, I'm just defending someones right to do what they want with their loot drop because it is their loot drop.
Are you an enchanter? Do people offer you their unused loot for you to DE for yourself? If you aren't an enchanter do you see if one is in the group and offer them your drops to DE?
This statement feeds back into my question from before. Why must I sacrifice my loot and thus my crafting materials to people I don't know and have zero obligation towards? Why is it not polite and decent to offer things to an enchanter in the group? I have literally never had someone give me an item. The few times I have asked for an item in trade so I could still have my DE mats I was told they needed their drop to pay for repairs. If I'm in a guild group or with friends there is zero question, we pass along loot to help each other gear up.
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Do you offer up any drops you don't need as an upgrade to enchanters to DE?
It's extremely selfish to DE an item somebody else needs. Don't be a dick, doesn't matter if you know them or not.