ToR was always about solo game, and it felt like a solid single player game w/ mandatory internet connection. People mostly played it to see main storyline, cuz it's quite well written, anything else was quite meh... But at this point ToR is as relevant as WildStar.
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Why don't you stick w/ FFXIV then? It's a solid game w/ relatively healthy community.
I mean, it's possible to queue for "normals" in there, cuz it's that way since day one, sorta... That's why community is used to such "difficulty" in queueable content.
I used quotes, cuz it's not really difficult, but it's more challenging than LFR in WoW. However, there are different expectations from queueable content in WoW, that's why we can't have queueable normal raids (or M0 dungs in this case) in WoW.