Oh? What are you guys fighting over then? I mean your 'I do not want to be forced to pay for others' stance kind of makes you look like an anti-ACA person, which currently is mostly equated to pro-TC. Plus some of the arguments you make are the same made by supporters of the bill. The 'I want healthcare to be affordable for everyone without me having to pay for it' stance is perfectly fine. People only take offense with 'I don't want to pay for others and don't care how others, especially the poor, manage to pay for it' one.
If you are simply arguing for the former, I am sorry for confusing you with the latter, and so should others.
The American government is not sufficiently suppressive for anyone to apply for refugee status. Therefore, telling him to flee the country is pretty much akin to telling him to become an illegal immigrant in another country (getting a permanent visa in other countries is not exactly something done on short notice).