Do you think this is an acceptable action? Would you do it?
https://www.thestar.com/life/2017/04...eel-ellie.html
Unbelievable. How can this even be an option? Even worse instead of immediately suppressing this illicit desire, they are considering it?My male co-worker of several years and I hit it off right away.
He started working with me six months before I started dating my now-husband. He had a girlfriend (now his wife).
During the brief period that I was still single, he made flirtatious comments to me.
I was too nervous or immature and walked away then. He never told me his feelings outright.
Five years later, I’ve realized I’ve had feelings for him all along.
I see him occasionally outside of work and we always have the most amazing time.
I still love my husband, but I desperately want to tell my friend I still have feelings for him five years later.
I also want him to tell me the same.
I don’t want to break up my marriage. What should I do?
Instead of trying to light a fuse, put this bomb aside and look at your marriage.
Lots of married people have some fantasies that turn them on — e.g. the flirty guy at work — but they don’t all have affairs.
Yet, that’s exactly where asking about “feelings” can take you.
What follows is discovery by your husband, his pain, your humiliation and possibly a breakup.
That’s not what you want, if you truly love him.
But you may need more in your relationship — of appreciation, affection, sex, laughter. Work on making those things happen before you risk not having a chance to try.
Ask nothing about your co-worker’s feelings. See him less outside of work. It’s great to get along well. Not so great to break up his family either.
Besides, if he doesn’t have feelings for you, it’ll be mortifying to have asked.