Alrighty then, I gave a TLDR version,
I don't post meters, I keep en eye on the meters for own benefit, for example I should have been doing a bit more than I was.
We're all casuals and we're a casual guild (I thought that pretty obvious from the time to clear I gave, which are pretty long compared to most), I'm not an elitist, I don't scorn people for doing anything wrong or pulling a lower DPS.
Yes I know my rotation, yes I expect everyone in a heroic raid to know the same, yes I also expect mistakes to happen, missed CDs, pop to early on hc and the likes it happens.
I don't know about your guild, but we didn't (don't) have a single person in the raid group who ignores mechanics, we decide what we're going to do, we pull. If it works great, if it doesn't we reflect and change. For example star caller was wiping us as I mentioned, so we kept our top two dps on him while the rest of us saved our CDs for the first add. It went down.
As for a team player? I help out when I can from general discussions to bringing extra flasks and food for those who forget.
As for my attitude, its completely calm and straight forward. I personally do not care if we spend the entire week wiping on the same boss. Frustrated if the same person gets hit by the same thing? Yes, but we make an effort to high light that and help them understand how to overcome it.
So being benched has absolutely 0 reason to do with my attitude or play style, I'm one of the most laid back guys on the team. We've got a few who have egos the size of Everest, for example one bloke likes to continually have his mic on open and does a over exaggerated sigh each time someone dies or we wipe. Another one gets sarcastic and is frankly a complete dick to a few people who play his class because he's doing better than them.
Yes, I'm annoyed at being benched when I more than make it past the minimum requirement, if I was benched to bring in a guildie, say a new trial member but he was sub par and needed gear, I wouldn't mind. If a raider had come back to the game and wanted to see the raid I wouldn't mind. If we had two many of the same class, I wouldn't mind. In my mind, in guild it doesn't matter what the reason for being benched is and I have 0 issue with that. My issue is being benched to bring in someone else, from another guild who can barley be arsed to sign up 50% of the time. Since this isn't the TL
R version, this person just happens to have a family relation to the RL of the other guild, and that RL is raiding with us. You don't do that to your guild members, you especially don't do that (without blowing my own trumpet) to someone who has had your back since the first day in joining, from passing on loot to those who need it more to farming mats for hours so people could have free enchants and food to paying a full faction and server change to ensure a raid happened. Literally, brought my tank over for one night raid because the RL and GM we're getting shit because they had one tank and we're going to call it for a third time on the trot.
In a nut shell, I help out, I pull my weight and some backdoor deals have gone on which have resulted in me being shat on. And you know? I stayed, I went on the Saturday night runs on normal to help people get gear so they could join the HC team - regardless I didn't need any standard drops from there. Monday nights a group of us organize Mythic key stone and night bane runs to help people gear, again mostly raiders looking for upgrades (and people their mounts). Lastly, not as big of an effort as the other two, but when I get a free random hour here or there, I run either a EN normal / HC run to use up some BLP, usually I get about 5 raiders from the guild, who want to do it, but can't be arsed to set it up themselves. These are all things I don't have to do, but I do, because I enjoy spending time with people and I don't mind helping out, even when I'm not raiding for what ever reason.
However, as I said a final nail in the coffin is the attitude of "yea I got the kill now, we'll wait for ToS before carrying on" Notice I said I and not We. This is because I know from an officer the GM's had enough of the game and can't be arsed to play any more, but doesn't want to give up the position. The RL is more interested in playing HoTS and won't organize any run without the GM being in the group. I can be happy in a guild that only wants to do HC, it's fine. But this attitude sucks donkey dick, it's just pure selfishness, if they want to quit or go afk for a period to play other games, then they should be passing the reins on to one of the other current raiders who has the skill set to set up the raids, which we do have and are willing.
So you'll forgive me if I've hit the point of being done, but any sane person can only take so much. Maybe I should of worded my original post a bit better, in regards to this new guild, it was purely accidental I discovered I had an alt in there still, I got lucky to have a guild of that level that potentially are willing to give me a trial - tbh a trial that'll probably result in me not being up to scratch. If that wasn't an option I'd be looking into guilds on the same level as the current one I'm in, or close to it, even if it was just a HC one.
but to finish and be blunt - Don't you dare assume I'm one of the types of people you've described, pretty much everything you've described are attributes I despise in players usually because they have the piss poor, self inflated ego to go with it and usually have enough influence to cripple a guild if they throw a hissy fit