love?

[Revik]

If there is anything a person can gather from this thread is that Love is felt differently for everybody. However, what I personally believe is that love is the solution to that nagging urge for belonging and dare I say it perfection. One thing we can all admit to ourselves is that we are imperfect beings and that we lean on each other for support and to help our shortcomings. Some of these things we are not even self aware of. Feeling love with someone is having those feelings of belonging and perfection (or greater self) being fulfilled.

Love is so much about euphoria although that is nice too. Love is more about finally feeling relief and comfort in a world where you have to put on your thick skin and mask every time you go out.

[Laerrus]

[Docturphil]

what does love feel like for someone that experience it? is it the strange feeling in stomach when you see or think of the person? when was the first time you loved or were loved by someone?

Love is not a feeling. That's some bullshit perpetuated by Disney movies, Hollywood in general, and romantic stories from pretty much since the beginning of time. Feelings of "love" are really just infatuation and infatuation always fades away.

What love really is is dedication and hard work. It's sacrifice and compromise. It's putting someone else's needs before yours.

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nah, it's not worth it.

mostly because, you can't ever keep it. eventually it'll be gone, unless you die before it. then what happens? they feel the loss of it.

no, it's much better to go without.

Apparently you've had some bad experiences.

What you're talking about is not love but is in fact infatuation. There's a significant difference. When two people actually love each other it isn't something that fades away because it's not a feeling.

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It's like when you go over to her parent's house for dinner even though you hate her parents and how they'll go on for hours about their keeping-up-with-the-Jones stuff, and you don't even bring up how much you hate going over there, you try your best to hide it and you smile so she won't catch on.

That's a bad move because sooner or later she will catch on. Best to be honest and communicative about how you feel, especially when it's difficult to do so because you're afraid of hurting her feelings. That shit will come back and bite you in the ass otherwise.

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imo its when you touch and there are sparks, literally a surge feeling rungs through you, and when she kisses you everything else in the world goes away. you feel nothing and everything at once. I've known such feelings once, and without a doubt i know i love her and it shames all other times i thought i was in love. (no i'm not nor will i be with her...)

infatuation != love

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i'll just never see that aftermath as being worth it. i didn't feel good enough during the relationship to justify that, i think.

i mean, if it was like some euphoric drug the whole time, maybe that'd be worth it. but it was just "hey, i like you more than a friend and i kinda want to keep that going for like the rest of my life or something cause i kinda feel like complete every time i look in your eyes"

but then it turns into "hey, you're not there anymore and i kinda want to die every time i remember your face" and the good ol' "oh hey, this feels worse every time i think about it"

and then it's like 9 years later and you kinda feel selfhate for being a part of that every time you remember her face and it's a good feeling to you cause it reminds you to not do that again.

though i guess all of that could be a byproduct of my personal darker outlook on life i've always held. i've never really enjoyed life all that much.

If you're able to find someone that is as committed as you are then it's great. The benefits are huge. Combined income is just awesome, plenty of sex, someone to help you with whatever you need help with, you're never lonely. It's just great. Would highly recommend.

[swisscheese]

i recognize the man in the middle but dont know who the others are

Chris Kattan on the left, Will Ferrell on right

[HumbleDuck]

I haven't experienced love as in male female relationship, what you described however sounds like sexual attraction.

[Docturphil]

If there is anything a person can gather from this thread is that Love is felt differently for everybody.

No, no it's not because love is not a feeling. That's infatuation. And that is felt pretty much the same way for most people.

However, what I personally believe is that love is the solution to that nagging urge for belonging and dare I say it perfection. One thing we can all admit to ourselves is that we are imperfect beings and that we lean on each other for support and to help our shortcomings. Some of these things we are not even self aware of. Feeling love with someone is having those feelings of belonging and perfection (or greater self) being fulfilled.

Love is so much about euphoria although that is nice too. Love is more about finally feeling relief and comfort in a world where you have to put on your thick skin and mask every time you go out.

There is actually a lot of truth to this though.

[Deleted]

Love is not the lust. Butterflies that someone said is the lust indeed. I'm in love with my wife because we feel the bond, we can't live without each other and we miss each other even after few hours. I didnt feel that at the begining of our relationship, but after few months. I know everyone is different, but that was the case for me. Anyway, love is not love affair, it's not that physical like in the begining, but is much stronger, and I belive in it.

[CptEgo]

Never experienced it. Probably never will.

[Gamdwelf]

Some people in this thread seem to understand what love is.

[wowaccounttom]

its not a bad thing but it can make you very vulnerable when you would otherwise not be

dont get attached to it

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you know, as funny as it may sound, i have found that Anime brings about many of the feelings experienced in a relationship

the joy of finding someone & the pain of losing someone

its all there.. check out the trailers below.... its not about falling in love with the characters, its about losing yourself in the story.... if you can do that, you can feel sooo much you would experience irl.

ps: what a pain to find trailers with english subs

[derpkitteh]

Never experienced it. Probably never will.

be thankful.

[Shadowferal]

Love and infatuation are two very different things.
And thank whatever gods there are for that.
Infatuation is nothing more than a shallow selfish reflection that gets annoying after a while.

[Thoughtful Trolli]

There's a tiny amount of inexplicable commitment involved, which is why it's so closely related to hate.

Anyone who's experienced it understands. But a better example to talk about would be forgiveness, because what we're dealing with is the horrifying knowledge of any sentient learning they are not in control of themselves.

The nightmare fuel here is astounding and unlimited and to everyone else who hasn't suffered it, it's a joke, but we're not going to dive into that because most people would rather spare the innocent.

Anyway, when you say you forgive someone, you're lying. Period.

If you say "I forgive you for punching me when I sat in your chair." And then you sit in their chair and the hairs raise on your neck and you hope they don't see you and when they do you flinch and get out of their chair, you didn't really forgive them.

It's at this moment you realize that you cannot control whether or not you forgive them. You are NOT in control. You just plain don't forgive them for punching you.

When you can't even remember the incident at all and you're in that chair laughing and no longer even thinking, then you've forgiven, but you wouldn't even recognized that. And if someone points this out decades later, you can only really go "Oh yah, I guess." And you still won't flinch because you're not willing (Or not able to control) whether or not you care about it or not anymore, to the point you can't even pick the fear back up, nothing is in your control and never was, but you know that now that you've experienced it first hand, and you can genuinely say you've forgiven them.

But the whole time, the point is, you can't choose when you forgive them or not. And sometimes that uncontrollable creature never forgives, especially if the situation was more dire, like HAL locking you outside the airlock. You never forgive the machines, not as long as you can remember you own name, even if you try to say so and do a trust exercise, the fear is there and you can't deny it. You did not forgive... But you shouldn't forgive anyway. That was unforgivable.

Love is the same thing once you can look at it in retrospect. You had no control. You really didn't But nobody does have any control over anything and nobody realizes this for a very long time until in their later years when their continence fades away, and that's when you realize everyone was a puppet the whole time, even you.

And that's when you understand Dr Manhatten's quote; "We're all puppets, I can just see the strings." which is exactly how someone who awakens sees the truth. So you can see the strings, you're still a puppet.

[Ealyssa]

It's that burning feeling when the other doesn't feel the same

[King Shark]

Four pages and nobody thought to link the actual definition of love. Tsk tsk tsk.