being a woman and realizing i am inclined to some feminine things that guys typically aren't inclined to? not denying reality.
your gender does effect things you like to a degree, that's all there is to it. there's only two of them, corresponding to the only two sexes we have. it's that simple.
you're essentially saying transpeople can't exist when you say gender doesn't exist. you're completely devaluing them. there's a reason they feel like a man/woman even though they're in a female/male body. it's their gender, and they need to transition so they feel right.