She's a gold digger.
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If you're a woman, and upset that not enough money was spent on a zero-utility item with limited resale value, you absolutely suck at finances, and the guy should be smart enough to see the red flag of what the future's going to be like, and act appropriately.
Don't try to move the goalpost man. First it's about winning by not getting cucked now it's winning by his kids loving him? Dude is banging young attractive women well into old age, I'd consider that a win regarding finding women and buying rings before getting cucked and divorced.
I can see the benefit to it being a surprise. However, not gathering any information on what she would want is too dangerous.
I think of it like a bday gift. If I told someone what I wanted, and they bought it for me, i'd be happy. But if they took all the info i've given them, and bought something they feel fit the criteria, and put a little of their own thoughtfulness into it, i'd be happier. However, you do run the risk of completely missing the mark making the recipient dissatisfied.
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engagement rings are a scam by the jewelry industry.
and when talking about an emotional, spiritual, mental and physical bond that is supposedly "till death does us part" the last thing that matters is a stone from dirt.
one of my good friends who was working on getting his PhD didn't make shit as he was teaching undergrads at the time. He spent like 3-4 months of his salary on a ring for his soon to be wife and she took it back to the store and got a new one she deemed worthy of her without telling him. If the size of the ring is what is important to her she isn't worth marrying. This woman isn't taking in a lot of other factors who is paying for the wedding? Average wedding runs about $26,000 in the US.
And what is she giving to him?
Why would men have to give something expensive to a women when the marriage itself is already very costly and could also end up costing you 50% of your belongings and your kids in the long run?
Women are the ones that often want to get married, not the men. Better offer us an expensive ring instead
Ahuh. A guy that makes assumptions and likes to spend money on useless shit.
I don't know, you don't really strike me as someone smart enough to get rich.
In the unlikely event that you are, you should probably get some friends who aren't total retards and would rather be impressed by what you can do with your money, not what vanity items you can buy with it.
Do keep in mind the duration of the gift, too... Buying even the best birthday present for someone will likely affect them for a much shorter period of time than your marriage. Often, people wear engagement rings alongside their wedding band for the duration of the marriage (and hopefully life). Thus, you want the recipient of the ring to be 100% happy with it, because they will hopefully be wearing it for a very long time.
If you want my advice, I would recommend picking out several you think she'll like, then show her and ask her what she would really love. Figure out an appropriate price range, then get her to give you several examples of something she would be happiest wearing; hopefully she will be happy to work with you on it. Choose one that fits both of you, and that you would both be happy with seeing on her finger, then go all out on the proposal with your thoughtfulness. Create memories that you will both love to remember every time either of you look at that ring.
This entire thread is because of a lapse of communication; the woman is feeling disappointed because she had certain expectations about the ring that were not met. These expectations were not adequately communicated to her soon-to-be spouse, either because they were assumed to be understood, or because he decided to ignore them and based his decision off his coworker's advice, or for some other reason entirely. Whether or not these expectations are right is not even for us to debate; that's honestly something they need to communicate between each other. Her feeling disappointed is something she should speak with her fiance about, but she wants help opening that discussion, which is why she's even asking the internet in the first place; throwing insults at her for being a gold-digger or ungrateful are not helpful to that discussion in the slightest.
You still don't understand what I am about? I never once mentioned "friends," yet you continue to assume as such. I mentioned that expenditure promotes opportunity for more net gain. I could care less about what friends think of me, they're friends for a reason, one of them being that.