I agree with this, but if I want a diamond I'm still going to have to end up paying "market value" even if it is something that is manipulated and controlled... unless I decided to go digging through pawnshops to essentially buy a used one at a lower price (but that seems like a lot of work and time I think I'd rather just spend the money).
Woman here. Would be pissed at him for buying such an expensive ring.
All right, gentleperchildren, let's review. The year is 2024 - that's two-zero-two-four, as in the 21st Century's perfect vision - and I am sorry to say the world has become a pussy-whipped, Brady Bunch version of itself, run by a bunch of still-masked clots ridden infertile senile sissies who want the Last Ukrainian to die so they can get on with the War on China, with some middle-eastern genocide on the side
I could understand talking about it with him if she just really didn't the style, that much is, to be honest, quite fair. I mean, she has to wear it her whole life, suppose he picks something hideous (in her eyes), then talking about it could be good for them. Beside being an astronomical failure on his part for not knowing her tastes about it.
But bitching about the price? Get the fuck out. THAT is just greedy as fuck.
Originally Posted by Qieth
Given that, why would it be expected for blue collar folks to pony up 2-3 months salary for a ring? Blue collar folks are not in the same ball park as Nobles or Royalty. At some point, it was marketed as a requirement for all, no matter what income bracket you are in.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
While I personally think her attitude about the ring is abhorrent, and the size of the ring should not matter, but the motivation and heart behind it that count, I'll add another two cents here from a different angle. Namely her comment about him making a "six figure salary". At the end of the day, that six figure salary doesn't necessarily mean he has money to burn.
I worked in NYC for a number of years and made $110k. While that may seem like a lot of money, it wasn't a ton. I couldn't afford to easily live in Manhattan (I had a wife and one year old son). We lived in Hoboken, and while our apartment was really nice and spacious, it was still a lot of rent. It depends on the cost of living where he resides, if he has a mortgage, a car payment, the bills he has, etc. Maybe he really wanted to propose and $1600 was all he actually had on hand and proposing with a ring was more important than saving up and buying a really impressive ring?
Also, this whole idea of an engagement ring for a percentage of your salary is a god damned exhausted notion. It's a nod to the days when the dowries were used and in this day and age it should be about the heart. Not the pocketbook. So ridiculous.
I think it's woefully stupid to consider a person a bitch for complaining anonymously about a jewelry item they got and don't like.
Nothing about that makes her bitchy... if a guy complained about a watch his girlfriend got him that he didn't like is she now also a bitch? Like seriously....
I feel like they already have communication issues and should just end it. My hubby took me ring shopping before we were engaged to get an idea of what styles I liked. Then he actually went to a jeweler and designed my ring. I love my ring (9years later even) but I wouldn't have spent what he did had I actually picked my ring.
Completely agree that you can be upset about the style but the price? really? I guess maybe the price just stings more for her since she doesn't even like the style along the lines of he didn't even make an effort since he *could* probably afford to spend more.
So she wants the ring to boast about what it cost despite overly large rings being unwieldly and a pain to wear.
Engagement rings should be a single band of gold, no stones, so they can be worn constantly.
If someone wants jewelry to impress others then engagement rings are not the piece to do it with.
I hope this guy sees this as a sign and backs away slowly.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
The Emerald is the Birthstone for May (my birth month) and Citrine is for November (her birth month).
But as well, Green and Yellow hold other significances for me as well. Green is just my favorite color in general, and the color of my eyes (not as deep as emerald green though), and yellow is the color of the dress she wore on our first date, (plus she is one of the worlds biggest Pikachu fans).
And a not so related significance, Emerald and Gold were my highschool colors. But that isn't really part of why these were chosen, just more of a happy coincidence.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
Huge red flag. My wife and I spent $60 on our wedding and then a few hundred on matching white gold wedding bands. Plain bands, no gems or flourish. Money wasn't an issue, we just saw no reason to waste it. The amount of money people believe they need to spend on a wedding is absurd. Spending money won't make your marriage stronger.
The ring box will be a Pokeball. Not even kidding.
We have a few of the old school ones which are about 6 inches tall.
In the ball, i'm going to fit a thick piece of foam in it, with a Ring pop on top and use that to propose. I plan on splitting the foam horizontally and hide the real ring in that. Sort of like a box in box trick.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
Yeah, I don't get the US osession about engagement rings. I mean, who's wearing theirs after getting married anyway? So it is just a very overpriced (and in my eyes often ugly) dust collector.
My husband got me a nice necklace for our engagement. He knows I'm not into the "big bling", so he chose carefully to not overdo it and I still wear it regularly.