Can be, yes. Most time it isn't. Hell, in the right cases just touching someone can be assault.
That doesn't mean all use of physical force is bad.
As shown with police, people in authority have the right to use "justifiable" force. Being a parent puts you in authority over your children.
Before you even try I'm not talking about out right beating your kid.
Humility is a great form of punishment. As long as you comfort the child after they have learned their lesson.
Better kids, why? Because you stuck to your own business and were "seen, not heard"? Because you didn't want to be hit again? I don't physically punish my children and all four of them are amazing.
Maybe your generation behaved better as children, but the simple fact that you think it's okay to "beat" children tells me that you aren't half the adult any one of my daughters will be.
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I'm not sure you're going to find someone who will tell you that spanking isn't effective in preventing a child from doing something you don't want them to do. The fact is that it causes irreparable damage to most children and especially those with predispositions.
Anything worth doing is worth over-doing. Moderation's for cowards.
There are tons of things that have made societies today safer and more prosperous than before, and I'm pretty sure there are zero studies that suggest that this shouldn't have been possible because of spankings. Some things have far more effect on society than other things, like advances in technology, lower crime overall, and economic prosperity.
Furthermore, we don't have any way of comparing our world to what a world in which generations of parents hadn't spanked their children would look like (probably not much different), so it's not like we can make any kind of comparison. And I doubt that anybody would seriously say "we would be (x) much better off if only we hadn't spanked people."
All I said is that there are better ways of discipline, both in terms of effectiveness and morality.
"We must make our choice. We may have democracy, or we may have wealth concentrated in the hands of a few, but we can't have both."
-Louis Brandeis
I was also born in the 80s, I wasn't spanked, and I've never spent a single day in jail my entire life. The same goes for all of my family members, my friends and their families, etc. The only person I personally know that was spanked during his upbringing was my grandfather, who was born in the 1920s.
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I looked through this shitshow yesterday, and I decided I'd like to put in my two cents.
First of all, beatings and spankings are two completely different things, I can perfectly approve of spankings, where they cause enough pain to reprimand a child, but not too much to emotionally scar them, or instill fear. I can't think of a single reason a child needs to be beaten.
I was spanked infrequently as a child, when I deserved it, and I learned what I did wrong, and don't have any memory of being spanked after I was 4 or 5.
You could have the world in the palm of your hands
You still might drop it
From the article:
"some studies have found no relation between physical punishment and negative outcomes, and others have found the relation to be moderated by other factors"
"Another large Canadian study41 found that children who were spanked by their parents were seven times more likely to be severely assaulted by their parents (e.g., punched or kicked) than children who were not spanked. In an American study, infants in their first year of life who had been spanked by their parents in the previous month were 2.3 times more likely to suffer an injury requiring medical attention than infants"
So this shows that spanking doesn't always have negative outcomes. And if a parent resorts to punching and kicking, that would fall under abuse. Its actually dumb they listed that a risk, like wtf. Also most parents are not spanking their year old infant. Unless I missed it where does it say "spanking causes irreparable damage to most children"? A spanking every now and then is not going to cause major damage.
Now if a parent is constantly spanking their child over any and everything, that is an issue.
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Not the same thing as being spanked.
You make it sound like a spanking involves striking a child till their behind is cherry red and bleeding...I've seen all of these alternative punishments...it doesn't stop my niece from being a spoiled little brat and pushing it to the very limit without actually getting in trouble.
well i have NEVER feared my parents ever,i love them still as much as i did as a kid or even more,i just a a faul mouth as a kid and thanks to my mom giving me an occasionally smack on my mouth/cheek it was not hard at all,but it learned me when to shut up in certain situations
now as an adult i never shut up,people can know my opinions
i understand, i was slapped/hit a lot too, it did shut me up mostly due to me not wanting to be hit again.
NOT because i understood or agreed with why they hit me. and that's where the crux lies in my opinion.
if you wan't to truly make them understand a slap won't help much. only a quick fix.
raising kids is hard enough as it is though, so i will not presume to know all. like most parents i do my best, it is hardest to maintain patience when you are dead tired etc.
Don't cherrypick the article please.
I would argue that things higher aggression, delinquency and spausal assault fall under "irreparable damage". It's prevalent throughout the entire article, and they are very much talking about "corporal punishment" and not just beating your children, as seems to be your primary defense. They are studying the effects of doing it "correctly".Originally Posted by The early years: identifying patterns