Why do some people react so rudely when you give them a compliment?

[Deleted]

The thing is, women generally don't respond well to that kind of lead in. As a women myself, if someone came up to me and said that, I'd get away from them as fast as possible. Granted, not all women are turned off by that style of conversation but a lot of women are. Especially in today's society where women are being treated as nothing more than being around for men's pleasure.

I mean you make a good point. That is exactly why a lot of men do indirect approaches. Like asking for directions and then taking the woman into a conversation. So all you're doing with that is making guys change their strategy. But as I've said multiple times, this isn't about hitting on people, it's just about the compliment. You could leave immediately after the compliment and would still get bitchy reactions. That's retarded.

[Doctor Amadeus]

No, we wouldn't.

You are both younger, about the same age, he is the Young Prince now King of Stormwind, and I think you both communicate pretty effectively, which as most will tell you is a foundation for any relationship romantic or otherwise.

[Taedae]

OP: you asked why people are turned off by your compliments. You have been given many similar responses to your post, explaining quite plainly why, which is what you asked for. But instead of acknowledging what people have said, you are bashing it all and essentially saying if we don't agree with your method, we are wrong. You know you are getting a negative reaction from the women you've been talking with in this manner. That is a clear indicator that you aren't handling the situation in a manner that is appropriate (even ignoring people's posts in this thread) and you wanted us to explain why this is happening. Instead of rolling your eyes and making remarks like "oh so I just can't talk to anyone then?", you could try actually listening to what we've all said. No one said you can't communicate with women of interest. All we've said is to reevaluate the method you are using and the words you are speaking.

[draynay]

Some people are more perceptive than others, if they recognized you for what you are then they'd be less inclined to react politely.

[Deleted]

Come on, man. You don't say the first thing that comes to your mind. And you don't start a conversation with "You're cute." That's creepy and weird, and puts the recipient on edge, unless she (or he) is piss-drunk. Everything depends on the situation and context. If you sat down with a cute girl over a coffee meeting for work-related purposes, would you say "Oh you're cute. Now let's get on with business." Fuck no.

I don't know how people can be so dense about this.

What are you talking about. What does that example have to do with anything? You might not want to tell a colleague she's cute, but you can tell her you like her dress or something and it will be well-received. So what's your point?

[Freighter]

I mean you make a good point. That is exactly why a lot of men do indirect approaches. Like asking for directions and then taking the woman into a conversation. So all you're doing with that is making guys change their strategy. But as I've said multiple times, this isn't about hitting on people, it's just about the compliment. You could leave immediately after the compliment and would still get bitchy reactions. That's retarded.

It's at so and so place, bye and good luck!

[Deleted]

You gave a compliment and you expected a positive response. The compliment wasn't for them. It was for you.

What a retarded statement. I didn't expect anything, I just don't get how people can react to compliments rudely. It's ironic. It proves they didn't deserve the compliment in the first place.

[Doctor Amadeus]

That's obvious start then and why not? Just a single "Hello" can take you anywhere.

Ok lets take your example.

Me: Walks up "Hello"
Them: Hi
Me: *Blinks*
Them: Do you need something?


One way, to approach anybody it is about attitude and confidence, but you also have to have something to say being honest is the way to do that, "How big are your tits, I seen them from across the street" probably a no go, good way to get hostility.


Saying "Hello, my Name is _____, I noticed you across the way, and was wondering if you like to go out sometime?" With or without "You're beautiful"

[Freighter]

You are both younger, about the same age, he is the Young Prince now King of Stormwind, and I think you both communicate pretty effectively, which as most will tell you is a foundation for any relationship romantic or otherwise.

I'd burn Stormwind to the ground if that was my choice to make.

[Adam Jensen]

Depends on the compliment.

"Hey you look good today," will usually result in a simple "thank you" because it's a generic compliment.

"Hey nice tits" however might get you sent to the HR office . . . or simply fired.

[Deleted]

They don't find you attractive, they think you're a creep. If they found you attractive they'd be flattered.

Attractiveness has nothing to do with it. The most attractive guy will still get harsh responses. In fact probably more so, because they'll think of him more as a player, while the chubby who compliments them might look sweet, innocent and harmless.

[Adam Jensen]

Ok lets take your example.

Me: Walks up "Hello"
Them: Hi
Me: *Blinks*
Them: Do you need something?


One way, to approach anybody it is about attitude and confidence, but you also have to have something to say being honest is the way to do that, "How big are your tits, I seen them from across the street" probably a no go, good way to get hostility.


Saying "Hello, my Name is _____, I noticed you across the way, and was wondering if you like to go out sometime?" With or without "You're beautiful"

"Hello my Name is Adam Jensen, I noticed your tits from across the way and was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime?"

[Not A Cat]

Some people just have a hard time taking compliments. Sometimes they trigger some self defense mechanism because often times people will want something from you. Sometimes people have such low self esteem that they think compliments are either sarcastic or out of obligation or again, defense mechanism turns on.

I'll get a compliment from someone and I don't really know how to react to be honest. I just freeze up. It's especially weird when I pay someone a compliment, they say thank you, then compliment me back and I just kind of deadpan. I don't know why, I just get so freaked out when it happens.

I wouldn't take it personally OP, some people just suck at accepting compliments, myself included.

[Nerovar]

I said "hi, I saw you standing there and I thought you were really cute, I just had to come over and say hi, my name is ..." and I held out my hand. Obviously I was overstepping my bounds.

Jesus Christ OP. How is that robot life going for you?

[Deleted]

Besides, who seriously compliments strangers? If you wanna flirt with someone, just ball up and do it. Trust me, you'll go a lot further with the ladies if you come across as "The guy who's interested in you." and not "The guy's who's clearly interested in you by pretending to be friendly to get pity sex."

Nothing conveys interest more than telling a girl she's cute. Who says you can't flirt with a girl you just called cute? That's just the opener to set the frame.

[Freighter]

Ok lets take your example.

Me: Walks up "Hello"

Cut it down to this since at that point I'd be wondering why you're talking to me and wait for you to say something, like inquire about directions or stuff. If it's not requiring assistance with something then I'm just going to ignore you and continue walking if I'm going somewhere.

[Doctor Amadeus]

"Hello my Name is Adam Jensen, I noticed your tits from across the way and was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime?"

Yeah, that might get a lot of Anger unless you are Brad Pitt. I am not Brad Pitt.

[Deleted]

Women typically don't want to deal with random men only interested in sex

How does telling a girl she's cute mean that the guy is only interested in sex?

[Doctor Amadeus]

Cut it down to this since at that point I'd be wondering why you're talking to me and wait for you to say something, like inquire about directions or stuff. If it's not requiring assistance with something then I'm just going to ignore you and continue walking if I'm going somewhere.

Yes, I'm sorry I existed in the same area as you and might have consumed your oxygen, please FORGIVE ME!!!!!!!!

[Deleted]

If you truly must compliment someone, try to be a bit more nuanced than just "hey you look hot"

Can you even read? Where did I say anything about telling a girl she looks hot?