It sucks what you're going through, but I do understand it. I came from nothing, my parents always worked their asses off, I have had a full time job since I was 12, and we still barely scraped by. It sucks, honestly it does. I am the same way, I don't take money from people, I pay my own way, and I work my ass off on a daily basis to do so. What I don't understand is saying she can't get a job, I walked 4 miles every day to work when I had to, and I saved up enough eventually to buy a truck, and Now after 16 years of sticking with it, I do ok. I have a new truck, a house, and some minor luxeries that help me through. So don't look down on her for not accepting help, I understand the pride issue, and eventually it will cam down and things will be good.