Help convincing wife to let me come back?

[starkey]

I cannot believe WoW killed a marriage now. So far WoW has killed people, infants, and now a marriage. That is quite "incredible".

I know its amazing the person is never at fault it seems to be wow's fault all the time, OP your either a troll or deluded, you should leave your wife then its no more nagging cmon i know u want too

[Deleted]

She simply just hates WoW, I currently raid with no problems from her in a game called Rift (Often 4 days a week). But the very mention of WoW she flips =(

Guess I should listen to what everyone has said so far, and just give it up.

Seems like your wife is the problem, not you.

[tj119]

You can't manage your marriage and your hobbies, You have no hope, don't bother trying to play WoW again. If you can figuire out how, just begin playing again without her consent and show her you can, if she still doesn't want you playing and just does it because she truly hates the game well then, I don't know how to say what I think about that in a nice way...lol...

[Orist]

I think part of the problem might be that she doesn't work. She is at home all day, watches tv, probably is devoid of much/any human interaction and so when you get home she is ready to socialize, spend all her time with you. Whereas you had been working all day and when you get home you want to rest/eat/play/take your mind off your day. I am not saying you dont have an addiction or a serious problem. But if she had a job and hobbies that didnt include stuff that involves being in the house. You wouldn't be 100% responsible for her entertainment either. Just sayin'

[Bannhammer]

Real life over WoW, man, all day, every day.

[Schroedinger]

Your wife should understand that WoW is your hobby. You should know that a good relationship is worth more than a hobby. The final decision is yours.

[strangebreed]

People are saying that WoW is not worth losing your marriage over, and it probably is not, but you have to be a special kind of weak person to let other people dictate what you do. Compromise, but do not give up on things you really want to do, next it will be your friends, your other hobbies, your car, the stuff you eat, how often you have sex etc. Talk to her and agree on maybe two nights/afternoons a week where you can play, and she can stay the fuck away from you, tell her that this is what you need, and if she does not agree start telling her to turn off the TV while she is watching x factor, tell her she is spending too much money on clothes or tell her she needs to go running since her ass is getting too big, see how she likes that.

If you cannot stick to the agreed time a week you have for the game then you are probably addicted again, and should either get her to put parental control on your account or just realise that you are maybe too weak to keep it on a casual level.

If he said that to his wife he wouldn't have one anymore, hell say that to almost any woman and there will be a huge argument then shes gone...

[obdigore]

It's simple. Tell her you want her to understand why you enjoy the game so much. Sit her down with a trail account, make her a rogue, and let her go. Yes you might have to learn to cook and do house chores since she is going to be playing all the time, but soon you will be able to raid together, hooray!

Or you could honor the agreement you most likely made never to play wow again, not to worry about it, and to spend more time with your wife. I suggest you get a console and one of the motion sensor peripherals (or the wii) and get some games you can play with the wife. Not as fun as WoW, at times, but more rewarding as it builds your relationship AND your physical fitness.

[Zeta333]

If she is so closed minded she wont let you play the things you love then where is the base of the marriage if you have to give up that which you love to be with her. I wouldnt stand for it personally. I would tell her if she doesnt like it, >>>>>>>>>>theres the door, cus im sure you can find someone that will love you for who you are and what you do and not force you to change for them.

[Logbc]

Stay out. Should probably get away from these forums too (sorry).

[Mortezu]

I mean imagine if your wife got addicted to gambling or something and you almost divorced her over it. Then years later you find a casino voucher on the floor or something. How pissed would you be?

What he said. I understand you like games like everyone here does, but I'd really stay off WoW...I really wouldn't bring WoW back into your life in any way. Play single player games or one of the many free games.

[Primernova]

OP, you are a video game addict. It seems innocent but it really can put strain on a relationship.

Listen to her or part ways and do as you will.


<-- shit! trips decided for you.

Be godly and fair to your wench, she feeds you.

[Anjerith]

OP, honestly just quit the game. There is no compromise that will work out in your favor. Having been in a situation like this (luckily mine didn't go this far because I was able to put my addiction down) I can tell you that the only solution is to turn the game off and work on your relationship. Other, non-MMO, titles may be okay if you can even regulate that to Occasionally or every few days for a couple hours.


Otherwise, she's your wife and it's a game. You need to man up on this.

[Lovestar]

Somehow I think that WoW is not the actual underlying problem here.

[Krolikn]

You will get addicted again if you go back. That is guaranteed. You might be thinking "no I won't" but thats what addicts always think. MMO's are not for everyone. Some people just can't help get addicted because of their personality or a disorder. Be careful, picking WoW or any game over your wife says alot. She clearly doesn't mean much to you if you choose WoW.

[Nest]

Somehow I think that WoW is not the actual underlying problem here.

This.
Bet OP's wife does something to relieve her stress too, why shouldnt you too OP? :3

[Mayia]

Don't come back, play another game part time and spend some time fixing your relationship.

[Samuel L Raptor]

Everyone has things that they enjoy doing and for your wife to tell you you arent allowed to play a video game, well thats bullshit. Tell her she isn't allowed to do things that she likes to do if you cannot enjoy a video game you like in your spare time.4

It doesn't really seem to be an issue with you playing a video game, to me it seems it is an issue with your wife being controlling. If she wont even let you come back with her setting parental controls to control your play time, then there is something else going on, not just her not wanting you to play the game.

[Clevername]

Are you serious? You're willing to put your marriage in jeopardy over a video game... She can do better.

[RadmaKanow]

Two ways:
- either start playing. Just like that. But set VERY strict plan for yourself. No more than x days per week, one raid per week or something. And stick to it like it's your salvation. Show your wife that you playing isn't interfering with irl life. And i mean it. You really should set very strict schedule for yourself. You want to raid twice a week? Make it once. You want to play 4 days a week? Make it two. Set yourself a parental control. If you can show that your play time has ZERO effect on your irl life so whats the fuzz? You play in your spare time, everything in life is done. But if you cannot keep things up like that then...
- forget about it. You get into WoW and in no time all your time will be consumed. And then you will really end divorced. Because of silly game. Because for court WoW is just a game and you are addicted and not fitted for irl social relationship.