Originally Posted by
Dembai
I'm a gender dysphoric female, and am currently pregnant.
I would love to be male - only the love of my life wouldn't be able to deal with that (and to be honest, I wouldn't be able to put up with surgeries that would ultimately make me only half a man.)
As for what you guys get that we do not:
~ The ability to have a real, honest relationship with another person of your own gender without it turning to complete bullshit over any number of issues: an off comment, the way you looked at someone or something, a dream, an impression, a certain tone of voice, or just because that friend has another friend who hates your guts.
~ A lack of monthly visitor - though I have to say I've seen far more men faint than women over blood and guts. The hell do you think we see each month? Blue dye like in the commercials? Skinning a beastie is just fine for me.
~ The ability to AIM if you're peeing while standing. Women can do it - just...it's not recommended, lol. XD
~ The ability to avoid the following issues due to pregnancy: morning (or all day) sickness, narcolepsy, exhaustion over nothing, emotional outbursts over nothing (especially frustrating when you KNOW it's over nothing!), "loosening joints" which result in full body weakness, that weakness allowing you to pull a muscle for doing something as simple as stretching, that weakness also creating agony if you stand for more than a few hours, as your pelvis expands to slowly crush all the nerves in your lower spine - resulting in extreme pain down your legs, and lower back, massive cramps that can seize your whole body in moments - and result in yet more pulled muscles, loss of proper eyesight (I have no depth perception anymore), nosebleeds, headaches, acid reflex, constipation, tits aching all the time - which then progresses to tits aching AND LEAKING all the time, bras no longer fitting because you can jump over 3 sizes while pregnant, having tits that are crazy freaking heavy, hurt your back and make you pull muscles in your back and arms, food aversions, pica (where you have a desire to eat non-foods), everything smelling so much more - which results in everything that smells bad totally overwhelming you (and often making you vomit), having everyone and their fucking mother saying "Oh, this might be terrible, but then you'll somehow forget it all and want to have more." FUCK YOU NO I WON'T. Oh, and that horrifying sensation of having the kid kicking you all the time. I can't even relate how creepy it is. Seriously. That and it's enough that it can keep me up all night long.
~ And I haven't even gotten to labor yet - where apparently I will pee and poop all over myself, while this kid tears my vagina open (and it'll never be the same afterwards), and yes they tear - they have a very good chance to, and doctors will even help with the tearing if they think it's needed! And even if I'm lucky enough to get a shot (and trust me, gentlemen - there are plenty of cases where a doctor will refuse you, even if you want one - or if the first wears off - they may not give you a second, and even worse, give you something that makes the labor dozens of times more painful instead to try and make it go faster) I'll still be expected to be taking care of this kid hours later - even though I've basically been torn in half, and lost over 20 pounds of fluids. Oh - and they don't let you eat or drink during this process - in case they have to put you under for a C section. So it could be that you're sitting there, crapping yourself, being torn in half, while everyone watches your crotch, and even helps to damage it, denying you food, water, and yelling at you to push, and breathe - while you're in a terribly awkward position on your back not designed for comfort or even eas of birth - so that they can have the best view without straining themselves.
~ But "hormones" will make me forget all this. (I'm still calling bullshit on this - there's just no way I'm going to forget it or romanticize this. You can call me on it.)
~ Post partum issues which can kill me - or make me want to kill myself and my child. FUN SHIT.
Fuck I'm so mad right now I'm not even going to go into anything else. I hate being pregnant!