Men! Am I really out of line?

[Height]

Most guys like that don't trust themselves which is why they don't trust you with other people. My father was really controlling of my mom and let her have few friends and surprise we found out he was a major cheater through the entire marriage.

[Eace]

Tell him that he can talk to you on Facebook.

That's what I would do.

[announced]

ya tell him stop being so clingy.. u guys dont need to see each other every day.. just once in a while.. n stuff

[Itisamuh]

Insecure much? Jesus are you seriously saying if a girl has guy friends and she goes to hang out with them shes just going to bang them all like its a free for all porn shoot? I mean if she was going to sleep with the guys shes going to hang out with she would have just dated them before hand.. I mean shes known them a long time!

Not insecure, realistic. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but it is pretty much common courtesy to not hang out with them alone when you are in a relationship. It just looks bad, and yes, most cheating happens this way. You are seriously naive if you think the fact that two people never dated means they would not get it on if the mood struck. Bring the boyfriend or girlfriend along for these outings and there would be nothing wrong with it.

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Not insecure, realistic. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but it is pretty much common courtesy to not hang out with them alone when you are in a relationship. It just looks bad, and yes, most cheating happens this way. You are seriously naive if you think the fact that two people never dated means they would not get it on if the mood struck. Bring the boyfriend or girlfriend along for these outings and there would be nothing wrong with it.

All cheating happens when you date someone with no will power, no self respect or respect for the person they're dating etc. Location and circumstances don't matter, if you want it to happen, it'll happen.

[Pyroneus]

Surely all this talk of dumping him because he is insecure is going to lead him to become more insecure?

[Deleted]

I facepalm everytime i hear or read about a person who puts limits on their "signifigant other". Sure he wants to spend as much time with you as possible, that i can understand. But to make threats like "I will break up with you if you (insert random reason)" is just super childish.

It's not easy to end a relationship, especially not when you still have feelings for your bf/gf, life is to short to be controlled rather than be loved. Find someone else who respects your integrity and trusts you. It simply seems like he doesn't have any respect for you or the life you had before you met.

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All cheating happens when you date someone with no will power, no self respect or respect for the person they're dating etc. Location and circumstances don't matter, if you want it to happen, it'll happen.

Not no willpower, self respect or respect for their SO, just not enough.

Think about it, you may very well normally be completely in control of your actions, have tons of self respect and respect your SO as much as any sane person could. But, on this particular occasion you've had a miserable week at work, you've had a few arguments with your SO (nothing overly serious, just enough that it's not all perfect right now), you feel bogged down by all the things you've felt you had to do and just want to let loose, you've felt less than attractive lately as well. Now, couple this with a few drinks, that "friend" of the opposite sex who you do find attractive and him/her making a pass at you. Do you think it's as easy to resist the temptation?

No, I don't condone cheating, I've never cheated (but I have been cheated on). I'm just saying that at the end of the day we're still all human and under the right set of circumstances most people can be tempted (how extreme those circumstances have to be varies, some people will settle for "he/she hit on me, my bf/gf isn't here, let's go for it" while others, luckily, aren't nearly as quick go down that road).

[Deleted]

I'm sorry to say this about your boyfriend, but in my opinion (opinion!) he's a immature douchebag. If me and my girlfriend have to choose time to spend either on each other or friends, we normally choose friends. We see each other all the time. So many people forget about their friends when in a relationship it's disgusting.

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Not no willpower, self respect or respect for their SO, just not enough.

Think about it, you may very well normally be completely in control of your actions, have tons of self respect and respect your SO as much as any sane person could. But, on this particular occasion you've had a miserable week at work, you've had a few arguments with your SO (nothing overly serious, just enough that it's not all perfect right now), you feel bogged down by all the things you've felt you had to do and just want to let loose, you've felt less than attractive lately as well. Now, couple this with a few drinks, that "friend" of the opposite sex who you do find attractive and him/her making a pass at you. Do you think it's as easy to resist the temptation?

No, I don't condone cheating, I've never cheated (but I have been cheated on). I'm just saying that at the end of the day we're still all human and under the right set of circumstances most people can be tempted (how extreme those circumstances have to be varies, some people will settle for "he/she hit on me, my bf/gf isn't here, let's go for it" while others, luckily, aren't nearly as quick go down that road).

Sorry, but that's still weakness and disrespectful. Whether it's easy to resist the temptation or not, right and wrong are still black and white.

[Deleted]

He has any plans on getting a job himself?
Seems like he got too much spare time and need to get himself busy, or get himself some friends of his own.

[Verazh]

Hes a clingy, insecure, paranoid asshat if you ask me

Its important when in a relationship to have your own life, or else theres the danger of growing bored of eachother.

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Sorry, but that's still weakness and disrespectful. Whether it's easy to resist the temptation or not, right and wrong are still black and white.

Very few things related to relationships between humans are truly binary, it may be that Right and Wrong are the most common states but there definitely exist gray areas.

Besides, my point was clearly missed, it's not as easy as the person in question having no will power or respect. And as I also stated, this is situational, which means that sometimes people find themselves in situations they are unprepared for, other times they should have known better and could have avoided a situation which they knew would present them with a temptation they would be unable to resist.