Originally Posted by
Masterpd85
in order to quit you have to want too. "Trying" for months is not quitting, hell, trying alone does not equal actually quitting. You either are or you're not. period.
Second, you have to remove all stimuli that reinforces the desire to smoke. So that means walking away from or altering everything that sparks the thought or desire.
Third, the "quitter" will need to replace that stimulus response with a new one. For most that ends up being food since smokers have an oral fixation. That is where the white lie "if I quit I'll gain weight" comes from.
Forth, a good reinforcement into enhancing the desire to quit is usually good. Some of the first things people notice when they quit anything is improved health which makes them and their doctors happy. Sometimes this can be enhanced by showing people what addictions do to your body physically. That's a method tobacco companies are being forced to do here soon for their products, is to show real life pictures of lungs etc.
For my roommate, it was a combination of his GF nagging and me removing the stimulus. Once he replaced the stimulus with something else he eventually just stopped. But the big factor of him stopping is when he finally got a breath of smoke coming from somone else and later having to stand next to that person smelling them. THAT made him want to gag and it sealed the deal.
but be warned, addiction is addiction is addiction. Even once the stimulus is replaced the desire will arise again. Usually when stress hits and a person wants that "feel good" feeling again. Thats when the thought and eventual desire returns and here is the bad part.... it only takes one hit then its back to the beginning...