lonely

[Kapper117]

It's life, just keep truckin!

[Deleted]

i had a very active social life before I moved, so im really not used to being alone :S

A social life is something you need to work on if you want it, just a like a career.

You can make contact with neighbours and colleagues, ask if you can come along when people go out or have a party, or join a club to meet more people.

I think many people have this problem when they move far away.

[Glorious Leader]

Usually when I'm lonely I think about this song.

[Kerath]

I find an easy way to meet people when you're somewhere new is to take a part time job in a local pub or cafe. Get chatting with customers and your colleagues, it's pretty easy to make friends that way and get to know people in your area.

[Deleted]

A well mapped non linear day plan.

That's how I live my life.

[Azutael]

Yes, iv'e always been lonely. Not that it has bothered me all that much though, got used to it.

[Schmittay]

Cats, lots of cats. Every neighbourhood needs a cat lady.

[geniebsmart]

^I had cats, twice, but they both ran away.. I think cats hate me :'(

I spend most of my time on my career, and it isnt the most social friendly enviorment... so its hard to meet people to hang out with and just talk to about normal stuff etc. but I am glad tha t im not the only one who feels lonely.

[ArMeD_SuRvIvOr]

Personally, I am used to not being with people all the time. In fact, over time I've become more introverted (I used to be a lot more social some years ago). I don't understand (and I don't criticize anyone) why people feel bored or lonely when they have no one to talk to or hang out with when they have a computer to play with. While I don't exactly feel lonely nor surrounded by people, family and friends, I've found that computer games are great at occupying your time if you feel aloof.

Over my years of gaming, about 12 years by now, I've found that strategy games that make you think immerse you a great deal, and hours pass by without you even noticing it. First person shooters aid when you need to blow off steam or when you simply want some cheap, quick fun. MMORPG's are excellent if you feel you need that extra "oomph" in social interaction while also being entertaining. Old 1990's games are very good for the nostalgia factor and help you remember of the good times when you were younger.

Verdict: play computer games (no stupid shit like Plants VS Zombies, I'm talking about Starcraft, Diablo, World of Warcraft, Call of Duty, etc.) that actually make you think and socialize.

Fun fact: I've been playing Hearts of Iron 3 lately, a very complicated grand strategy game with many factors and variables to take into account while playing, and found myself playing nonstop for 6 hours and then I realized I had to go to college in 2 hours. Games that immerse you are the best.

[Deleted]

^I had cats, twice, but they both ran away.. I think cats hate me :'(

I spend most of my time on my career, and it isnt the most social friendly enviorment... so its hard to meet people to hang out with and just talk to about normal stuff etc. but I am glad tha t im not the only one who feels lonely.

Ever thought of joining a social group? Like a book club?

[mercutiouk]

Quite positively:

I went from living with family or living with friends for every year of my life until 27ish. Had friends wanting own space etc so ended up getting a place on my own.

I went from being moderately anti-social to actually having quite a decent social life. Sure, there were times when I wouldn't even leave the house for a couple of days as I didn't have much to do (work shifts so 4 days off mid-week with friends etc working kinda sucked) but taking what chances came my way there were a few friendships that REALLY took off.

I'm not generally particularly outgoing, i'm the sort that has a handful of folks I KNOW, like really, really well and pretty much everything is done with them. I grew a few new ones and really did learn how to live on my own and look after myself.

If you are modelling you likely already do but hit the gym a bit more. Have a look for something of a past-time too, if you are musically minded have a look around for open mic nights. Sporting wise pop your head into a squash/tennis/swiming place and see what team events/meets are up on the notice board.

If you are REALLY pushed theres quite a few big cities that do "rent a friend" - basically folks who'll happily be company for the pictures/karting/whatever you like but you pay, otherwise very NONE escort style (they're generally just interesting folks who know the area but don't have many friends at present or are on a budget). A few of these may well lead to connections you can use to get to know people.

Try your neighbours too, just knocking on a door and going "hi, i'm your new neighbour, let me know if there's too much noise or anything you need a hand with" and take the conversation chance if given. That can often go places, at least if you bump into them another day as they are going out you might get an invite along if they've at least met you before.

[ghostkitteh]

I'm always lonely. It sucks, but once you get to the point where you can have a twelve hour conversation with yourself, it can be much more interesting and entertaining than actually socializing.

[BetaIntro]

Get an animal for companionship, they help, trust me.

[Deleted]

Do you work?
If so, how long each day?
I know what it's like. I'm alone almost all day everyday.
It will drive you insane if you do not have anything to keep you occupied.
I believe I have gone passed insanity sometimes. ESPECIALLY when I'm alone. Which is all the time.
You know sheogorath from oblivion/the elder scrolls series? It's kinda like that in a way I guess you could say.

On a side note, It didn't start until I lost most of my interest in wow and began just doing things online without other people.
Humans are very social. We thrive off of it well, most of us do. We need it. And I went for over a year and a half without it. It will drive you F'n nuts. Keep in contact with people.

I don't know why but this is how I imagine you right now.

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I'm always lonely. It sucks, but once you get to the point where you can have a twelve hour conversation with yourself, it can be much more interesting and entertaining than actually socializing.

That, and you're sure to win most of the arguments

[Deleted]

everyone feels blue sometimes,
those who deny are lieing^^
i already moveds some times because of my job
and study so i had to get to know new people at each location.
thats complicated and exhausting, but can also be fun =)

[dariusz2k]

I'm introverted, so I've never felt lonely.

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I'm an introvert too but I've still felt lonely before