Would you let your girlfriend/wife pose topless?

[aekya]

Let's say your girlfriend/wife was randomly walking down the street when Hugh Hefner sees her and thinks she's beautiful. Him and like 6 Playboy bunnies approach her and offer her something like $2.5 million to pose topless on the cover of Playboy.

The photoshoot will be done by one of the world's top photographers, in an exotic location in Italy. And the multi-million dollar paycheck is guaranteed. You are even allowed to attend the photoshoot if you like.

Would you let her?

Is this hipotetical or just happened to ya? :P

Anyway, ofc... posing is just that, posing.
Eyes cant take away or make her love you less.

Also you dont own her, it is up to her (and you ofc), accompany her and go for it.
Now, if sex was in there, i would strangle that old fart and take the money :P hah!

[Deleted]

I think a lot of people are looking at this the wrong way. Take, say, Lucy Pinder - I can only imagine the amount of spunk spilled daily courtesy of guys "having fun" looking at her pictures. Her boyfriend must be nothing but empowered, knowing that he has this gorgeous woman that so many men want, but can't have, because she's his. And shes making massive cash.

This is an even better deal. In addition to the above, it's a one off. Throw $2.5 million in and what sort of clingy, absurdly jealous little man wouldn't at least grudgingly go for that.... ? I cant fathom the logic.

[CoolFangs]

Of course, cause then I can brag about how hot she is.

[aekya]

I think a lot of people are looking at this the wrong way. Take, say, Lucy Pinder - I can only imagine the amount of spunk spilled daily courtesy of guys "having fun" looking at her pictures. Her boyfriend must be nothing but empowered, knowing that he has this gorgeous woman that so many men want, but can't have, because she's his. And shes making massive cash.

This is an even better deal. In addition to the above, it's a one off. Throw $2.5 million in and what sort of clingy, absurdly jealous little man wouldn't at least grudgingly go for that.... ? I cant fathom the logic.

Hahah indeed, it is not like she is going to film a porn movie... playboy is quite decent and more about "art" than anything else, even though i find the whole magazine pointless, there is however nothing wrong with it.

If someone has problems with photographs then good god, i cry for the self esteem of the guy.

[poser765]

I think it's childish for you to be hurt by such a thing. Cheating is one thing, posing is quite another. Cheating is a violation of trust. That's the most important thing about it. It's not about your girl having sex with another man, it's about her violating your trust. Posing would have no such violation.

It most certainly WOULD be a violation of trust if she knew it would hurt me if she posed nude.

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Hahah indeed, it is not like she is going to film a porn movie... playboy is quite decent and more about "art" than anything else, even though i find the whole magazine pointless, there is however nothing wrong with it.

If someone has problems with photographs then good god, i cry for the self esteem of the guy.

I have a hard time thinking of playboy as art when just about everything but the magazine associated with the playboy namesake is incredibly sexually themed.

[Tychoblu]

I don't own her. I would warn her about the 'casting couch' though.

[Torq]

I have a hard time thinking of playboy as art when just about everything but the magazine associated with the playboy namesake is incredibly sexually themed.

Since when can't sex also be art?

[aekya]

It most certainly WOULD be a violation of trust if she knew it would hurt me if she posed nude.

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I have a hard time thinking of playboy as art when just about everything but the magazine associated with the playboy namesake is incredibly sexually themed.

Sexually themed and sex are two very different things however.

I do agree with you that it would be a violation of trust if she did not consult you first about it.
But i do think there is nothing wrong with posing naked. the 2.5 million would only make it even less wrong.

I wouldnt let her do a porno though, just the mentioning of it would be enough to break up.
Im not a jealous person at all, i dont mind ex boyfriends and past, but i do have limits.
If she once did porn and then we started dating, i wouldnt care (although would get her STD tested lol :P) but it is very different if we are currently in a relationship.

But photographs? lol no, i wonder how would anyones photo be woth 2.5million and laugh at how stupid humans are though, while enjoying an early retirement and live off interest, using half to invest.

[poser765]

Since when can't sex also be art?

And that takes us full circle back to my argument. I wouldn't like it if my wife had sex with someone for art...nor would I like it if my wife posed topless for someone to masturbate while looking at.

Don't get my wrong...I am not a prude...i dig my fair share of EprOn. I just don't want my wife out there and associated with that. lol and to be perfectly honest I am not so sure about that when 2.5 million bucks is on the line. The only thing I would really be against is if my wife didn't give a shit about my feelings. i am expected to be sensitive to her needs...why should she not be sensitive to mine?

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Sexually themed and sex are two very different things however.

I do agree with you that it would be a violation of trust if she did not consult you first about it.
But i do think there is nothing wrong with posing naked. the 2.5 million would only make it even less wrong.

I wouldnt let her do a porno though, just the mentioning of it would be enough to break up.
Im not a jealous person at all, i dont mind ex boyfriends and past, but i do have limits.
If she once did porn and then we started dating, i wouldnt care (although would get her STD tested lol :P) but it is very different if we are currently in a relationship.

But photographs? lol no, i wonder how would anyones photo be woth 2.5million and laugh at how stupid humans are though, while enjoying an early retirement and live off interest, using half to invest.

i REALLY do agree with just about everything you say. I am not opposed to people who pose nude...i am disgusted by people that do porn. The ONLY thing in this thread i am trying to point out is that yes while she is free to do what she wants and no one can stop her it is just as "childish" (as one poster called me) to do it regardless of what your significant other feels about it. A fuck you attitude is NOT healthy in a relationship.

[aekya]

i am expected to be sensitive to her needs...why should she not be sensitive to mine?

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I am not opposed to people who pose nude...i am disgusted by people that do porn. The ONLY thing in this thread i am trying to point out is that yes while she is free to do what she wants and no one can stop her it is just as "childish" (as one poster called me) to do it regardless of what your significant other feels about it. A fuck you attitude is NOT healthy in a relationship.

And it is my turn to agree, a relationship means two are one, what one does ALWAYS affects the other, socially, economically, mentally, physically and so forth.

A relationship based on a "i do whatever i want regardless of what you think" is not a relationship, its a teenager fling and worthless at it, sex buddies would be a best description for it.

I do think that you have no right to forbid her to do it as she doesnt have the right to do it to you, but to speak with eachother and reach a common ground is needed in a relationship, as all one does affects the other, and if the person doesnt give a crap about that truth, then the relationship is best ended for favor of one who does.

[Zaelsino]

I think a lot of people are looking at this the wrong way. Take, say, Lucy Pinder - I can only imagine the amount of spunk spilled daily courtesy of guys "having fun" looking at her pictures. Her boyfriend must be nothing but empowered, knowing that he has this gorgeous woman that so many men want, but can't have, because she's his. And shes making massive cash.

This is an even better deal. In addition to the above, it's a one off. Throw $2.5 million in and what sort of clingy, absurdly jealous little man wouldn't at least grudgingly go for that.... ? I cant fathom the logic.

Pretty much my outlook. Empowering is the right term; I daresay most sane men would be flattered at their SO being approached to make millions for a little posing. Knowing I'm the one who goes to bed with this woman more than makes up for a few John Does touching themselves over the image of her.

And for that much money, just... yeah. I'd be supportive.

[poser765]

And it is my turn to agree, a relationship means two are one, what one does ALWAYS affects the other, socially, economically, mentally, physically and so forth.

A relationship based on a "i do whatever i want regardless of what you think" is not a relationship, its a teenager fling and worthless at it, sex buddies would be a best description for it.

I do think that you have no right to forbid her to do it as she doesnt have the right to do it to you, but to speak with eachother and reach a common ground is needed in a relationship, as all one does affects the other, and if the person doesnt give a crap about that truth, then the relationship is best ended for favor of one who does.

Exactly. Nice to see at least one person sees what i am saying and doesn't just label be childish and assume i am a woman hater or something. At no point did I EVER say a woman could be forbidden...only that there could be repercussion in her relationship if her husband or opposed.

Lets change the nature of the OP a bit. lets say the same situation...man approaches wife/girlfriend and asks to publish a picture of her topless in a playboy/hustler type magazine for money. NOT 2.5 million, though. lets say he only offers $100. What about for no money?

[Torq]

Don't get my wrong...I am not a prude...i dig my fair share of EprOn. I just don't want my wife out there and associated with that. lol and to be perfectly honest I am not so sure about that when 2.5 million bucks is on the line. The only thing I would really be against is if my wife didn't give a shit about my feelings. i am expected to be sensitive to her needs...why should she not be sensitive to mine?

You're still confusing her being sensitive to your feelings with her always siding with you. People can have healthy relationships with another person, while still maintaining vastly different opinions on various subjects. Just because she's sensitive to your feelings, doesn't mean she might not think you taking offense to her getting $2.5M for a photoshoot is silly.

[aekya]

Lets change the nature of the OP a bit. lets say the same situation...man approaches wife/girlfriend and asks to publish a picture of her topless in a playboy/hustler type magazine for money. NOT 2.5 million, though. lets say he only offers $100. What about for no money?

heh, nice twist.
I say that it would still be her choice although i would wonder about her character.
I can see and support doing it for monetary gain (meaningful one), but just to do it? what for? i wouldnt.
Then again, it would be up to her and i wouldnt hold a grudge.

[Darth Primus]

Let's say your girlfriend/wife was randomly walking down the street when Hugh Hefner sees her and thinks she's beautiful. Him and like 6 Playboy bunnies approach her and offer her something like $2.5 million to pose topless on the cover of Playboy.

The photoshoot will be done by one of the world's top photographers, in an exotic location in Italy. And the multi-million dollar paycheck is guaranteed. You are even allowed to attend the photoshoot if you like.

Would you let her?

The right question is not "Would you let your girlfriend/wife pose topless?" It is "Would you feel comfortable with your girlfriend/wife pose topless?"


I am afraid I cant give a straight answer to that amigo, show me the money first ($2.5 millions ??? wtf lol) and then i will ask my feelings about it, maybe yeah, maybe no, depending on our relationship plans for the future.

On another note, it would be her decision to do or not to do and then it would be your decision to stay or not with her ...

[Grizzly Willy]

It most certainly WOULD be a violation of trust if she knew it would hurt me if she posed nude.

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I have a hard time thinking of playboy as art when just about everything but the magazine associated with the playboy namesake is incredibly sexually themed.

Something that has to do with sex can't be art?

[Malcho]

Let's say your girlfriend/wife was randomly walking down the street when Hugh Hefner sees her and thinks she's beautiful. Him and like 6 Playboy bunnies approach her and offer her something like $2.5 million to pose topless on the cover of Playboy.

The photoshoot will be done by one of the world's top photographers, in an exotic location in Italy. And the multi-million dollar paycheck is guaranteed. You are even allowed to attend the photoshoot if you like.

Would you let her?

There is nothing wrong with this.

Let someone do something so easy and natural for an outrageous payout? Why not?

"let her" is the key phrase. You have implied that she can say yes. Of course.

"pose nude?" Well, I don't see a single thing that implies she will be interacting with another person sexually.

[poser765]

Something that has to do with sex can't be art?

Previously asked and answered.

[redruMPanda]

If she wanted to do it she could. I don't own her, and she's not my property so I mean hell if that's what she wants then sure why not?

[energumeno]

I would broke up a relationship if my GF started to ask my permission to do stuff. It is her life and her body, I wouldn't mind at all if she did it for free.