That's extremely selfish and unreasonable. I don't see how playing victim equals self-worth, especially when you take the scenario described by the OP in his post.Sorry to disappoint you but any female with a strong sense of self-worth will just dump your ass if you are ice cold in a situation where she feels misunderstood or unappreciated.
I think your request is more than reasonable OP. She's just playing the 'sullen and misunderstood' card to get what she wants. Approach her firmly and show her why her ways are wrong.