Hello everyone.
The friend in question is actually an online friend. I've known him for 3 years and we're really "close" friends, we talk to each other about everything, we're really similar and rather strange to everyone else i assume, we're interested in the same things and we've never really met people IRL that are like us. Sometimes we chat for up to 10 hrs a day (well, now that the holidays have started), This is the reason we're so close. Just to make it really clear, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN ADVICE LIKE: "You can't have internet friends, nerd!". Keep it to yourself.
Now, this last week we've talked a lot, this led to a lot of links to various videos and we ended up discussing (and eventually fighting over) 5 or so social issues. He's pretty much always sure he's right and i'm always the one trying to tell him that he needs to have an open mind and not go into a discussion as if he's the supreme arbiter of truth. But that never works so all these discussions have resulted in the 2 of us being a bit less... friendly?
About 2 days ago, he got pissed over some things on facebook, like photos of doors underneath which is this: "like if you've pulled a door which said push" and a few other things. To be honest, i find things like that extremely annoying too. So he basically said on his wall that he's leaving facebook because he can't handle the stupidity and that he's lost all hope in humanity... After that, we had a talk and he told me he's online on skype all the time. The thing is, i hate skype as much as he hates facebook. So after 5 mins of silly and friendly arguing over it, he basically got tired and gave me an ultimatum: i can either add him on skype or not talk to him (since he's not coming to facebook).
The thing is, i hate ultimatums. Especially if it's a friend giving another friend an ultimatum. Also, it feels as if he's trying to exploit the fact that he knows i'd rather endure skype so that i can talk to him than not talk to him at all. And he is right. But his approach is simply horrible and i've decided to take the option of not talking to him at all, out of principle. My best IRL friend is like this too. He doesn't give ultimatums but he doesn't make an effort to sacrifice himself for our friendship at all, and i always end up being the "victim".
I don't want to lose this pen-pal. We're like each other's shrinks. We reduce each other's stress levels because we simply have the same view of the world, and we have the need to talk about it to someone (at least excluding this last week). And that's him for me and i for him. So how should i deal with this situation and is it right for a friend to force down an ultimatum (no matter how trivial) on another friend? Thanks in advance.