Beauty > Personality

[Wewlad]

I don't date anyone due to my severe paranoid thoughts concerning dating/relationships/etc(specifically on me failing to be a good partner, and my fear of being used due to my extremely charitable personality). Instead I have embarked on several dozen one night stands and many flings. I am not a 'player' as I don't manipulate anyone, and I have only slept with women who asked me to and there was sufficient interest on my part.

For me attractiveness is important as I do have preferences like anyone would. Personality? Due to my submissive nature I have gotten well with dominant and 'neutral' women. As long as I'm not with someone who has less personality than a brick and isn't completely stupid.

There was one woman who I considered asking out, but I eventually lost to my paranoid thoughts and bailed out. As far as I know she's still single, but I likely won't ever pursue her.

[semaphore]

Some people have lower standards than others. This also goes to show that women have it so much easier than men regarding relationships. If you are a woman there is ALWAYS someone willing to take you.

Or maybe she's just insecure and/or have low self-esteem.

Also personal anecdotes don't go to show anything. Almost everyone always have someone willing to take them, most of the time we just don't like our options.

[Puck]

Personality, always.

While looks do play a part, I can say that in the long run it's a persons personality that causes me to be attracted to them. And besides, if you love someone they appear perfect to you regardless of their looks.

[Deleted]

Also personal anecdotes don't go to show anything. Almost everyone always have someone willing to take them, most of the time we just don't like our options.

So youre saying women have harder time to get laid than men do? Everyone knows thats bullshit.

[Deleted]

I go with personality>beauty, mostly because I can't stand to live with a person that has a personality or IQ like a trashcan. However, looks will be judged upon, always, and so do I, even if in long terms I go with the personality rather the looks, especially when we get older.

Say like my ol'man at home; "We dont have any looks to brag with, so we compensate with awesome personality instead!" xD

[Reeve]

You have to reach a certain minimum level of beauty to be considered attractive at all. After that point, each point of good personality is worth 10 points of beauty. Reach the minimum, then personality trumps beauty.

[Deleted]

i dont give a fuck about their personality, if they fucking hot im okey with it

[starlord]

So youre saying women have harder time to get laid than men do? Everyone knows thats bullshit.

they are about the same "difficulty". if you are a wallflower of course you're not gonna "get laid".

[Puck]

i dont give a fuck about their personality, if they fucking hot im okey with it

Riiiiiiiight.....

Well good luck with that.

[Destruktion]

Guy here. Obviously some amount of beauty is essential, but I could be with an average looking girl if I liked her personality.

[semaphore]

So youre saying women have harder time to get laid than men do? Everyone knows thats bullshit.

No. It's almost as though instead of reading what I actually wrote, you just made random assumption to strawman.

[Deleted]

I actually like flaws.

[thatguy181]

I agree with most of the honest people here.

In the long run, personality is far more important than looks. Eventually we’ll get old, wrinkly, saggy, and any other number of non thrilling terms.

That being said, the first thing anyone notices about you is your physical appearance. Yes, personality is what matters in the end, but telling yourself that while you’re 200 pounds overweight and you just keep on waiting for that partner who wants you for your oh so charming personality? Not going to work. Scratch that, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you may indeed be attractive to someone, but let’s face it, they’re weird. We’re wired to find excess weight disgusting. We’re wired to want fit, attractive mates. You won’t even enter the race for a lasting relationship unless someone finds something about you physically attractive. Then to win the race, you’ve got to have a good personality. Nobody can see your beautiful personality. They have to get to know you for that. They’ve no interest in getting to know you unless they find something about you exciting on a physical level.

[jackofwind]

I actually like flaws.

Especially things like extra limbs or growths with added grasping appendages or penetrable crevasses

[deathgrinder]

Looks have a worth but they can only carry an absolute bitch so much. The higher the bitchiness, the less the beauty is worth IMO.

[starlord]

I agree with most of the honest people here.

In the long run, personality is far more important than looks. Eventually we’ll get old, wrinkly, saggy, and any other number of non thrilling terms.

That being said, the first thing anyone notices about you is your physical appearance. Yes, personality is what matters in the end, but telling yourself that while you’re 200 pounds overweight and you just keep on waiting for that partner who wants you for your oh so charming personality? Not going to work. Scratch that, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, you may indeed be attractive to someone, but let’s face it, they’re weird. We’re wired to find excess weight disgusting. We’re wired to want fit, attractive mates. You won’t even enter the race for a lasting relationship unless someone finds something about you physically attractive. Then to win the race, you’ve got to have a good personality. Nobody can see your beautiful personality. They have to get to know you for that. They’ve no interest in getting to know you unless they find something about you exciting on a physical level.

well actually up until recently a bit of padding was considered highly attractive.. meant fertility in females and wealth in males.

[Laize]

Or maybe she's just insecure and/or have low self-esteem.

Also personal anecdotes don't go to show anything. Almost everyone always have someone willing to take them, most of the time we just don't like our options.

unless you, as a male, are above average in looks, wealth or power, women invariably have more options than men. everyone else becomes just friends when she finds someone higher up the totem pole.

[bekilrwale]

Looks are a big part of it for me but I would never date a 10 who is flat out stupid and annoying and hops on every trend ever.

[Gamdwelf]

well actually up until recently a bit of padding was considered highly attractive.. meant fertility in females and wealth in males.

That has never not been attractive.

[Reeve]

well actually up until recently a bit of padding was considered highly attractive.. meant fertility in females and wealth in males.

A bit, yes. A lot, no way.