Originally Posted by
pjc1955
I want to say something about the monogamy thing. Monogamy works for some people. But not for others. My husband and I are in a polygamous. We married each other in 2003. We went to Nairobi Kenya to marry our 2nd wife and came back here to the US. In this way she and I became married. We are fortunate to have found good matches. There is no jealousy and she excepts that I am the first wife and I have privliges that she doesn't. In her tribe, polygamy is just a normal way of life. A woman has to be very secure in herself and her marriage to get into this kind of relationship. No secrets or lies. Ground rules must be discussed and followed. It must be made clear that the second wife will be treated with love and respect, but she is and always will be the second. For example. my wife is only allowed to sleep alone in her bed with our husband 2 nights a week. But they can have sex anytime they want. She is welcome to come into MY bed and sleep with us. at anytime. I am not talking about sex. She often has a hard time sleeping alone.
For us Polygamy works and works very well.