Hello, right now I'm posting on something that have bothered me for a couple of weeks. This is not a thread where I whine or seek attention in any form or way.
I'm not good at starting topics, so I'm simply gonna jump right into it!
When someone dies, people have different ways to react to it. Some don't cry at all, some cry for days, and maybe even weeks. How we grieve over the death of someone close is very individual. Also, with pain there also comes needs. Some people need to be left alone for a while, and others need to be with people, some want none attention at all while others want to be the center of attention. Humans are very individual and react to things differently.
However, the most normal thing about death of someone close to us is sadness, even if we don't express it.
Personally, I'm a very positive person. I'm not really into negative emotions, I'm an optimist who can see light even when there is none. I don't really experience death often, but 2 weeks ago my grandpa died. My grandpa were really close to me, and have always been a supportive character with a smile on his face for as long as I can remember.
When he died, I felt absolutely no sadness at all. This really bothers me, one thing is being a positive person but when people close to me dies, I expect to at least get a little bit sad. I knew a little over a week beforehand he would die soon. He died sooner than expected, but not when I was told he would die, when he get put into hospital or when he actually died I got sad. Not even a little. This bothers me to no end. I don't think its a good thing not being a little sad at all in a situation like this. It just sounds cold to me. Like I said in the start, we all grieve differently, but when someone who means a lot to you passes away I don't think there are many people who wouldn't at least be a little sad. When he died, the first thing I thought was "well at least" and then I forced myself to not finish that thought. I'm pretty sure it was some form of way to actually make his death a good thing, but I don't believe there is anything good in death. This is first time I experience death since I was 8 (10 years ago). Back then I was sad, and it was a far less important person to me than my grandpa was. I changed a few years ago and became the positive person I am today, but being positive is no excuse for not getting sad sometimes.
Things like this makes me wish I wasn't that "constantly happy person who always smiles".