I remember starting playing at about 13 yrs old, now I'm 19. Back then I really never paid attention to my guild because I was too busy being a noob and observing the new world around me.
Anywho, if I met someone about that age (or younger) I would feel pretty uncomfortable. Although now I look back on it, I did seem to project a more mature influence. Just the way I spoke and took most of the jokes thrown at me.
I kind of know how you feel OP, just on a less larger scale.
I gotta pretty much agree. I find it more pathetic and somewhat sad seeing an older person act so immature and childish.
At least when a younger person throwing a tempter tantrum you kind of see it as a normal thing.... not when you're in your mid 20's.
I've found in my experience that guilds that either have age limits OR restrictions in the opposite direction (PG only gchat for example) tend to be filled with more immature people. I've been playing mmorpgs for more than a decade now and my age never has been an issue in any guild I've been in. There are other people like me who can give the impression they are quite older than they are simply because of how their brain works. I've always talked with people older than myself, I would approach adults and talk to them on a subject of shared interest when I was five years old. Age isn't very relevant to some when it comes to maturity, however with the majority age does tend to have relevance to the person's maturity.
If you're scared to be "friendly" then you probably are also acting in a manner that would be unacceptable in public in which case the problem is not the other people but instead is you. If you cannot be considerate of others when speaking then you should practice speaking in a manner appropriate for anyone. The difference is with online communication you cannot easily estimate the age of the person you are speaking with because you don't have any visual clues.
Say things in conversation like "Darkwing Duck, that shit was awesome!! Even better than Rescue Rangers" and if they get confused and just watched Icarly and stuff, they're probably too young for you.
I started WoW when I was 12 I'm 20 now :3
Originally Posted by Unkown
I wouldn't think anything of a player being a 12 year old girl, but then I'm not engaging other players with amorous intentions- if I was, I'd be sure to get the ages up front! Even then, you are dealing with the possibility of someone misrepresenting themselves.
In same states an inappropriate comment or insult can be considered a sex crime.
Why in the world is everyone assuming he's talking sexually to the person.
Things I wouldn't talk about in front of a 12 year old.
- wild stories from a weekend out of town
- how santa and the easter bunny aren't real
- I wouldn't swear if I can help it
I'm also in a guild with a loose 18+ policy. It's mostly though so we aren't dealing with kids who leave mid raid because their parents want them to clean their room or they are grounded for a week from the computer, etc. We don't want to deal with the drama that some kids can bring and their immaturity. But it's also so we don't have to worry about the guild chat content. I don't know about you guys but when I get home from work I don't want to hang out with a bunch of kids in RL nor do I want to hang out with them while playing a game.
I know what you mean OP.
My friends brothers play WoW, they are 8 and 10.
I dungeon with them alot, and it's so hard to not talk my normal way of saying adulty jokes, etc, and not to rage over easy to avoid things.
But yeah, it got me thinking about talking smart, I never know who is behind the screen.
See it in LoL alot more though, I see all these people blatantly swearing and making racist jokes, and then they turn out to be like 10-12 years old.
We stopped searching for monsters under our beds when we realized that they were inside us.
Tell me something, my friend. You ever dance with the devil in the pale moonlight?
We are all ages in my guild from young to 40+. Alot of us are parents and Officers watch gchat and keep it apropriate. Even if your older whats to say your child isn't looking over your shoulder reading things! I personally think a good way to be ingame is to treat everyone fair and keep things clean. If you want to have a stronger conversation take it in a private room in vent.
You're concerned about talking to teenagers online because you are concerned about Chris Hansen knocking on your door? Are you really that vulgar in your general conversation that it could possibly be construed in such a manner? There's nothing wrong with teenagers playing this game, normal people are fully capable of holding a proper conversation or giving instructions (like in a raid) to youth.
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When I first started playing, back at Vanilla release, I was 12 or 13. I ended up joining a guild as one of the youngest members (The only younger being a girl one year my junior)
We were never treated any different for our age, other than a few jokes on occasion ("You kids get off my lawn", "Kids these days", ect), and we still play with the same people now (I'm now 20, and she is 19). I cant speak for her, but I know I've never felt uncomfortable by people being older than me while I play, as long as they dont treat me like I'm a little kid.
Honestly, from someone who has been on the other side of the fence, just treat your younger guildies with the same level of respect and expectation as you would your older ones. I mean, go ahead and hold back on the adult language if you feel better about it, but I promise you they've heard it all before - you aren't going to be damaging them at all. Not holding back may actually make them feel more like part of the group, instead of like a kid at their babysitter's house.
I used to play video games when I was 12. Not sure how good I was. Probably wasn't too good with the math part of it all, but I'm fairly certain I still succeeded on most video games at medium or hard difficult in those days.
It's easy as an adult to look down on minors and think they shouldn't play video games, but it's also easy to forget that they can be just as good as us sometimes. As for the communication thing, I don't think it matters to most parents. My parents wouldn't have let me play WoW when I was 12 because of the online aspect, but some don't care too much. In your average elementary / middle school, a kid is going to be exposed to a lot worse things than they'll see in trade chat anyways.
Why does that freak you out? There is nothing in this game that is especially inappropriate for teens and preteens.
Maybe you shouldn't flirt with people over the internet. You might find that they will be the source of many surprises since, you know, they can pretend to be any age or gender.
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-There's a guildy, who I figured was a female. (Probably isn't female, and just has a female toon. Probably confused the guildy's childishness with girliness.)
-We got to talking. (Takes the guildy into a private situation, getting ready to get his man on, when he realizes....)
-He realizes its a 12 year old and loses all interest, and even hints that he's afraid of being seen as a pedo. (Its common practice for people to stop stalking you once you reveal you're very young or you're really a dude and not a chick, which happened to me several times since my main happens to be a female human. If I tell them I'm a dude and they stop wanting to have friendly chats with me. Lots of people aren't just after innocent companionship.)